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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy sister's MIL passed and funeral limits 50 people
My sister's mother-in-law passed this morning. Collapsed. Not sick at all. 63 and could work circles around us. Thin, healthy vibrant.
My sister married into a family my mother knew very well her whole life. I am my moms caregiver as she has health challenges, and Alzheimer's.. We are in a neighboring state, but my mom is from that small town and knows many people there.
The funeral home can only allow 50 people. So the service is postponed until June.
We are isolated now and have been because I followed the coronavirus story early (January). I prepped in February.
We will travel because its important. But I'm perplexed by the logistics. Do we go to see the surviving spouse? Of course. He's 80 though. My mom is 78. I hate the thought of his isolation too. These are trying times. And how much of this is going to happen? Too much.
htuttle
(23,738 posts)Could lead to (doing math...) 1-2 other people dying. Or more, if they they're mostly senior citizens.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)Yes, Have followed the science quire closely. There should not be a funeral. Im trying to figure out how to be supportive to peoples grief. (My own included) it suddenly feels even more isolated around here. And more sad, obviously. I feel bad for everyone.
uppityperson
(115,674 posts)leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)How to balance grief and support, and a little closure...
And prudence. Even amongst just a few people.
kozar
(2,029 posts)leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)Ms. Toad
(33,915 posts)You can have unlimited people for up to 40 minutes for free.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)I will look into this. Am unfamiliar. My sister and I didnt have any productive ideas today. Thanks.
Ms. Toad
(33,915 posts)and has much more of a feel of being in the same place than some of the other services, especially when you have lots of parties. Friends' meetings across the country are using them for meeting for worship (church equivalent).
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)Am not a church-goer. But that feel of soace sounds right. Thank you.
Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)Your mom and the surviving spouse are fully grown adults. Unless either of them is in a deep state of dementia, explain the risks and respect their decision. It's their lives, and they should not be treated as incapable of making decisions (no matter what we may think) unless they are.
All of this is so hard on all of us. We want to protect everyone we love. Best of luck to you and your family.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)With the funeral home. Its such a small town, we shall see but thats definitely something they should be thinking about too.
We just all went into governor-advised stay home. I agree with it all. I just didnt think about this scenario.
Thank you.
Maru Kitteh
(28,303 posts)ribrepin
(1,715 posts)passed recently from cancer. The funeral is delayed until after the corona virus is over.
leighbythesea2
(1,200 posts)It will be hard on families grieving processes though. My condolences. We dont have an exact date, but june tenatively.