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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI'm feeling very nervous
When things were getting better, a Bat Mitzvah which was delayed for a year was scheduled for about a week from now. We made plans to spend a week with family before hand (fortunately before hand given the age and health of my parents). I believe everyone who was invited to the Bat Mitzvah had to show proof of vaccination but, as we now know, that's not really effective in large indoor groups. I'm feeling very nervous about this party (I do have a dressy mask to wear). Can't not go - the relationship (1st cousin and close knit family) is too close.
Skittles
(152,967 posts)use your better judgement - this is how covid spreads, in part because people feel obligated to go against their better judgement
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Stay safe!
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drmeow
(4,996 posts)Skittles
(152,967 posts)that is even sadder
Treefrog
(4,170 posts)Yikes. Thats scary.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)It is not worth risking your health. We don't know how bad this can get at this point.
Either that or fake illness, however if your husband goes and you live with him, that is still going to be a problem, but may still be less risky.
SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)Per Dr. Ding, Harvard epidemiologist.
XanaDUer2
(10,328 posts)and don't go. Not worth scaring yourself. We all need to be understanding of one another
BigmanPigman
(51,432 posts)I hope at least one mask is a real N95. If Covid is aerosolized it can be very difficult to stop. I wear real N95s and rarely go out but somehow I got a 5 day fever, chills, aches, etc. It wasn't Covid since I never had nose, throat, lung issues at all. I am fully vaxxed and live alone but somehow something infected me. You can't be too safe.
LeftInTX
(24,560 posts)I had no choice and they had big wedding.
It had already been delayed due to Covid. And this was before vaccines.
Here is what you can do besides masking up:
1. Sit far away from everyone
2. Spend as short of time as possible there - take outdoor breaks during the event
3. Quarantine yourself afterward
4. Test yourself three days after the event.
I couldn't even do 1 and 2, but I certainly was able to do 3. If you are vaccinated and develop Covid, symptoms should be mild unless you have an underlying condition.
Skittles
(152,967 posts)end of story
greenjar_01
(6,477 posts)Stop chasing catastrophism.
drmeow
(4,996 posts)don't patronize me. My fear is based on data that I have seen with my own eyes and data fellow scientists have reported.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)You know what can and likely will happen. People will get over it if you aren't there. Little white lies were made for this kind of situation.
Treefrog
(4,170 posts)Dont go. As others have pointed out, its a no-brainer.
BannonsLiver
(16,162 posts)Last edited Fri Jul 30, 2021, 01:58 AM - Edit history (1)
This will be your guiding light of optimism and comfort in these trying times.
greenjar_01
(6,477 posts)Well done.
Ms. Toad
(33,915 posts)I have skipped several gatherings on my spouse's side of the family (which include several rabid anti-maskers).
You can also choose to go and stay safe. Get an N95 mask to wear underneath your dressy mask. Eat/drink before you go. That's what I did for my spouse's aunt's funeral close to the peak of COVID. The funeral mass and the graveside service were not problem because the former required masks, and the latter was outdoors.
The immediate family (my spouse, her 6 siblings, and descendants) spanned 4 states and at least 20 households went for a restaurant meal afterwards, at a time when indoor gathering were supposed to be limited to single households. I went, kept my mask on, just to acknowledge family ties. Everone else ate - and kept offering to get me food (they can be a bit dense at times).
So even if you choose to go, you don't have to put your life at risk.