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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsHow to handle people who won't acknowledge the reality of what happened January 6th
{NB: you may have to translate these metaphors based on your individual family member or friend}For conservative Republicans
Try something different: If punishment doesnt work at discouraging bad behavior, theres no reason to keep doing it. Be clear about expectations: Give kids a chance to succeed by reminding them what is expected of them. Embrace natural consequences: When the punishment is specific to the offense and logical, kids have a better chance of modifying their behavior. Praise the right actions: Dont just punish the wrong behaviors. Make a habit of praising good decisions. Avoid the power struggle: Holding it over your kids head will undermine team mentality in your family.
For moderate Republicans
1. Your Teen Is An Individual Too, Not Just A Teen:
One of the biggest misconceptions about the teenage years is that every teen behaves a certain way. While you may feel that is correct, it is not fair to generalize your teen with everyone else. One of the first steps you need to take to reach out through your teens stubborn streak is to understand him as an individual.Let your teen see that you respect his individuality and that you know there is no single way to handle situations.
2. Understand Your Teen:
You may think that you know your teen, but how well do you actually know him? As a parent, you may know about things like what your teen likes to eat or who your teens best friend is. But these are all questions that most parents may know of their teens, as a by-product of living together. To actually understand your teen, ask yourself questions that will tell you how well you actually know your teens real life and his world.Try and understand more important aspects of your teens life like what embarrasses him, what does he do when he is sad or lonely, who does he turn to for sharing his worries, what scares him or what fears he has and so on.
3. Know Your Battles And Dont Stress On Every Topic:
With a teenager in the house, there are bound to be many fights and disagreements that can almost be a daily affair. If you indulge in every disagreement and fight with your teen, it will only create an atmosphere of hostility. It will also make your teen act more stubborn towards you. Understand what topics are more important and need to be taken up with your teen, even if you know it will be a disagreement.Make sure you dont show displeasure with anything and everything that your teen does. Pick your topics depending on the necessity and importance. For instance, do not admonish your teen for all clothes choices. Instead, make yourself heard if you feel it is too revealing or inappropriate.
4. Think From Your Teens Point Of View Too:
To understand why your teen may be acting stubborn, you need to first understand what your teen is thinking. Try to understand what it is that makes your teen feel truly motivated or interested. Once you understand your teens way of thinking, you will be in a better position to deal with any arguments or disagreements.Offer your teen choices that will make decisions easy. You can take out the trash tonight or help with the dishes is a good way to let your teen make a choice.
5. Encourage Good Behavior:
Your teen may be stubborn, but it is a growing phase that will surely pass. Make sure that in your anger or displeasure towards the stubbornness, you do not ignore the positives. Always appreciate the goodness that your teen has and every achievement of your teens that has made you proud. Share your feelings with family and friends and make sure your teen knows how much happy and proud it makes you.Showcase your teens different achievements or interests prominently. Put up any interesting art work they may have done or display a trophy your teen may have won.
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How to handle people who won't acknowledge the reality of what happened January 6th (Original Post)
Bucky
Jun 2022
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Eliot Rosewater
(31,097 posts)1. Good one
Karadeniz
(22,270 posts)2. The most beautiful child I've ever seen was at my home the other day. It took all my will power to
not wax effusive over her gorgeous looks, but I didn't want to contribute to creating a shallow and superficial teen or adult. I heaped praise on her for being so sweet to the cats she'd come to see.
ReluctanceTango
(219 posts)3. You're being too kind in equating them to teenagers
Try two year olds. That's more their speed.