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Are you censoring yourself right now? Trying to keep in check the full scope of your anger by tempering the expression of your anger?
I know I am.
Not in my own home, of course. I've been ranting and raving about the history of oppression faced by women in America, and not just women - but the advantages and control straight, white males have enjoyed over the rest of us. I'm fairly certain he was glad to go to work this AM. Not because he disagrees with me but because regardless of his own support, I can be vicious when truly angry. My words can be mean and cruel, even though they aren't directed at him. I'm not attacking him, but I am attacking a system that favors people like him (straight, white, and male). Only, I know people don't always see the difference when fury, hurt, and bitterness are being expressed. It can be hard to listen and not feel the need to defend yourself even when the only thing that is needed right then is to listen without going on the defensive. I will make no apologies for my anger, and he knows that too. Thankfully, he's not so stupid as to tell me I'm being unfair.
But online, I've been holding myself back.
Anyone else?
BlueGreenLady
(2,823 posts)and also I'm isolating more than usual. I avoid contact with known "churchy" people because I don't want to have a to be parsing my words when around them. Wish I was in a position to move to a more liberal area but I'm retired and would have a hard time finding a cheaper area to live. Will have to stand and defend Democracy from here.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)Ive invited anyone celebrating yesterdays ruling to please unfriend me. I am livid. So are my friends and family.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)KarenS
(4,024 posts)I just posted that I live in a red area,,,, and I choose not to say what I really think bec I have heart issues and cannot afford to get outraged,,,,
I am beside myself today but cannot really say what I am thinking bec it is not politically correct on any level.
on edit: Husband and I are looking for some orgs to support that aid with transportation and rooms to travel,,,,,
Lars39
(26,093 posts)KarenS
(4,024 posts)Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)Take care of yourself.
KarenS
(4,024 posts)I wish I was younger and healthier,,,,, but money will have to do.
Nevilledog
(50,676 posts)I think that scares my husband more than if I was screaming at the top of my lungs.
I have the feeling that if I start saying out loud what I'm thinking, I'll never stop.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I worried what not getting it out was doing to me.
Nevilledog
(50,676 posts)Not for everyone, but works for me.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)building a house with no windows, one door. Then removing the door. Just an empty room, really.
Then watch them die.
Nevilledog
(50,676 posts)That got an evil chuckle.
*reminder to self* Really, really don't piss of Solly.
Be sure and make it a big room, don't wanna leave anyone out.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)One day I'll tell you about my dull razor and turpentine behavioral modification hypothesis. It involves visual stimuli so it's not all low tech.
Nevilledog
(50,676 posts)I look forward to that.
electric_blue68
(14,598 posts)game for us. We had a great time
Or a rare occasion some poor sim died.
I can aboslutely see why you"d want to do that!
IF you do you're gonna hafta post screenshots! 😄
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I did it when Shrub was in office. No screenshots though. Just finding my happy place. Might be time to do it again. Stopped playing for a long while.
electric_blue68
(14,598 posts)KarenS
(4,024 posts)Nevilledog
(50,676 posts)RobinA
(9,878 posts)This has been coming for 42 years. I feel like the other shoe has finally dropped. I have some hope that it will sort itself out eventually, but I'm not holding my breath. Do I feel like smashing somebody's face in? Yup, but I' pretty used to that these days.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)but it was still a gut punch.
Yeah, punching faces is a thought that has crossed my mind a lot over the last decade or so. It has gotten worse.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)I guess it's actually yes, because I'm tempering my language so as not to sound offensive.
But, honestly, my answer to the "oh think about the babies!" is "FUCK OFF with that shit."
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)Bettie
(15,998 posts)keep her Fetus Fetishizing to herself and let others take care of their own bodies.
It was not well-received. Apparently, I am a "murderous evil bitch" and will "burn in hell".
Might be a threat if I believed in hell.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I don't buy into it either.
orleans
(33,986 posts)MissMillie
(38,452 posts)I do speak my mind. But I never wish illness or death to people, and I don't grave-dance.
Do I hurl insults at GQPers? Yep.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)MissMillie
(38,452 posts)And trust me, I wouldn't win any prizes anyway.
It's about trying to honor my mom's memory. It's kind of a long story.
Believe me, there's a lot of mean and nasty stuff that goes on in my head when stuff like this happens.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I can understand wanting to honor a loved one's memory.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)I will grave dance. With wild abandon.
MissMillie
(38,452 posts)at least dance to some really great music.
csziggy
(34,120 posts)Bettie
(15,998 posts)that's the plan.
2 Meow Momma
(6,682 posts)Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)and have deleted them all before pushing the final key. My anger is too close to the surface today and once I get started, my posts become diatribes that need to be tempered. Better off being a reader/learner right now.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)Irish_Dem
(45,625 posts)I think women are angry and many are being triggered due to past abuse and control issues at the hands of males.
And some men are telling us how to act, think and feel about Roe.
This is not going over well.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)Yes!
Exactly.
mnhtnbb
(31,319 posts)I am so full of unexpressed rage and anger that my chest started to feel tight several hours ago. As soon as it did, I got off the internet, took deep breaths, then went outside to watch hummingbirds come to my feeders. The chest tightness went away.
There is no one here to whom I can rage, so I bottle it up or vent online. But I soon have to back away, or I'll be having visits from Agent Mike.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)And it's been that way for the last 24 hours.
I've been cleaning to release some energy. I had to stop myself when I realized I was cleaning an already cleaned twice-in-one day bathroom. It did sparkle though. Still does. lol
mnhtnbb
(31,319 posts)Sparkle is good!
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)two former friends who I jettisoned during Chump's administration, basically saying "YOU DID THIS!!!" Their votes for the orange bastard brought us to where we are today, and I can never forgive them for that.
I'm not talking casual friends here: For one, I was work buddy, Maid of Honor, and ultimately Godmother to her kids. This one, in particular, stuns me, especially since her third son is a gay, married, small business owner whose own protections will be one of the next targets in the SC's line of fire...and I'll bet she'll be crying over the "unfairness of it all" when it actually happens, blaming Biden b/c it's during his term, and not seeing her vote's connection to the outcome. We were BFFs for over 55 years, until the tRump division made that no longer possible. Another example of ETTD.
I need to back away from the keyboard and then have one of those pressure cooker safety valves implanted in my head to slowly release the steam today before there's an explosion of emotion.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)The anger on top of all the hurt knowing longtime friends could be so radically influenced.
You describe it perfectly. A need for a pressure valve to slowly release the steam building up.
highplainsdem
(48,727 posts)I was censoring myself.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I have a drawer full of feminist t-shirts and I'm wearing them and silently daring people to just MENTION women's rights.
So far my friends know I'll go off so few of them have said anything. I have received some knowing nods from other women who have acknowledged my Gloria Steinem/Dorothy Pitman Hughes t-shirt today.
I don't give a shit that I live in a blue city surrounded by red areas. Why the fuck should I censor my rage? My country just told me I am not a full human being with full rights to my very own body. I will not censor my rage.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)boston bean
(36,186 posts)It all feels like we are in the middle to end part of a dystopian novel and you know the ending coming is not going to be pleasant and the good guys really might not win.
I am sure I will pop out of this funk and fight on for another day, month, year, decade.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)People need time to grieve and then they will fight again.
It's hard to come to terms with just how little your rights matter to others.
electric_blue68
(14,598 posts)I'm pretty sure I've used some curse words here so there's that.
Though sometimes using a close stand-in for a curse feels satisfying, too, as though you know I'm "holding back".
On FB I used a string of the symbols that signify cursing in a post along with the spellings of sounds of frustration, and anger.
And replying back and forth with other friends, and acquaintances.
I've got a liberal long time friend with a 36 yes old daughter in Texas. ( )
I haven't talked on the phone to anyone yet probably tonight though some are not available right now.
Also bc I'm in a rather challenging situation my attention is a bit diverted.
We knew it was coming but now that it's here - it's
Effin' SURREAL! If I wasn't living temporarily with a roommate I'd probably be occasionally yelling out loud.
I might be pounding a pillow, too.
Shock still, sorrow, and the intermittent rage is skulking around in between focusing on other things whether errands, fun etc.
My favorite Meme that's appeared so far - I posted in my FB post has an old fashion B&W TV test pattern words over it that say:
We Are Experiencing
Temporary
Incoherent Rage
Please Stand By
(OMG - perfect 😂 😂 😂 🤪 😭 🤬🤬🤬 )
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)I definitely relate to it.
electric_blue68
(14,598 posts)event warranted.
Skittles
(152,964 posts)I would not even know how to do that.
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)But online - yeah, I'll check myself.
orleans
(33,986 posts)here, fb, & twitter
Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)feeling right now.
Instead of listening, they would go on the defensive. Or worse, become patronizing and start to explain our anger to us.
orleans
(33,986 posts)and while all of them are open minded/liberal dems a lot of them don't like to post about politics because of their other friends & family members. so while i've seen a few of them posting on roe (and i have too), i know they're holding back like i am.
i have a hot temper and the ability to be extremely crass (not to mention the special way i have with profanity) and i care about them enuf to want to protect them from my venting.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,563 posts)Everyone at our cookout was outraged about this.
Lady Freedom Returns
(14,120 posts)I'm screaming at yelling.
I have never been quite. I've been through hell and back , so the flames don't bother me anyway.
I grew up in a blood red corner of a red state. I have been screaming about injustices of conservativism since before I could vote. It's in my blood to fight injustice and stupidity.
Won't stay quite online or off.