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So a six year old boy kissing a girl is "sexual" now, is it? (Original Post) sibelian Dec 2013 OP
Anything to feed Turbineguy Dec 2013 #1
Of course not. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #2
Can't they learn it without being accused of being a sexual predator Blanket Statements Dec 2013 #4
Certainly. No one's calling him a sexual predator anyway. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #5
Over-the-top rhetoric influences weak minds. It's like the Jedi Mind Trick. Bonobo Dec 2013 #3
Have to be careful, so the "SVU" department of "Minority Report" is on the case. lightcameron Dec 2013 #6
hell ya. so is the humping and everything else that goes on at 4 and 5. little kids seabeyond Dec 2013 #7
Hence, a six year old accidentally shooting his little sister is not "tragic"? LanternWaste Dec 2013 #8
Do you understand the normal stages of child development? IdaBriggs Dec 2013 #12
If his name is Velvet Jones, then maybe it is. Arkana Dec 2013 #9
It is a normal exploratory developmental stage. IdaBriggs Dec 2013 #10
a young friend who taught 7 year old was shocked by students who used graphic sexual language bettyellen Dec 2013 #11
Sigh. My kids caught a YouTube video of "My Little Pony" that someone IdaBriggs Dec 2013 #13
Invading other peoples' space should never be tolerated eridani Dec 2013 #14
preschool they even have a little song to teach the kids. tucking hands, crossing knees allowing seabeyond Dec 2013 #17
No but it can be harrassment. cbdo2007 Dec 2013 #15
What if your six year old daughter was being kissed repeatedly by two boys? whttevrr Dec 2013 #16
Yes. Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #18
Which absolutely nobody but you is suggesting. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #19
 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
2. Of course not.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 07:42 AM
Dec 2013

But that sort of behavior has to be nipped in the bud early. Boys (well, all children for that matter) have to learn that no means no and to respect boundaries.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
5. Certainly. No one's calling him a sexual predator anyway.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 09:17 AM
Dec 2013

I said in another thread about this I thought the school's reaction was too severe, and that they can still deal with it appropriately less harshly.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
7. hell ya. so is the humping and everything else that goes on at 4 and 5. little kids
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 09:23 AM
Dec 2013

explore sexuality. damn straight. a problem? you really do not know this?

it is not adult world view of sex or sexuality, but it is an exploration. then they start up again about pre puberty

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
8. Hence, a six year old accidentally shooting his little sister is not "tragic"?
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:25 AM
Dec 2013

Hence, a six year old accidentally shooting his little sister is not "tragic"?

 

IdaBriggs

(10,559 posts)
12. Do you understand the normal stages of child development?
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:49 AM
Dec 2013

How children mimic behavior and play pretend so they can learn their roles in society?

And to answer your straw man question, IT IS BEYOND TRAGIC.

It is what happens when children mimic behavior (picking up guns, pointing them at things, shooting) and the fool adults around them leave guns accessible.

Kisses and hugs as normal expressions of affection are not the same thing as leaving children near guns. This should have been one of those times when the children were taught about appropriate behavior and boundaries. ("We don't kiss people at school or work, and we don't kiss people who don't want us to kiss them. Hugs and kisses are reserved for family, like mommy, daddy, aunts, uncles, and grandparents. You can kiss non-family when you are a grown-up. Etc.&quot

 

IdaBriggs

(10,559 posts)
10. It is a normal exploratory developmental stage.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:39 AM
Dec 2013

They see adults doing it, and mimic the behavior. Then, in a SANE world, the adults use it as an opportunity to discuss appropriate boundaries and behavior.

Only in crazy-town does it become adult level sexual harassment.

<== ON EDIT: Wrong smilie. Doh!

I've got twins this age - one boy and one girl. My daughter got "engaged" at age 4, and has had 'boyfriends" ever since - at one point, she left her "fiance's" house (yes, there is an eye roll there!), and went to an activity where she had her "other" TWO boyfriends. We had to discuss "no kissing" rules pretty early on (because she saw mommy and daddy doing it), and also make up rules about when our children are "allowed" to get married: after graduating college, both having good jobs, approval by the parents as to good character, and at least 21.

We are hoping early brainwashing sticks - lol!

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
11. a young friend who taught 7 year old was shocked by students who used graphic sexual language
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:46 AM
Dec 2013

to describe her bodies, theirs, and talked about how they wanted to rape her. She was just an assistant, and it was a very rough, underfunded school to the extent that this kind of thing was basically ignored. You'd never think kids that young could sexually harass an adult in the workplace, but that is what she endured daily there. Anyone who thinks all kids are innocent about this stuff, is naive.

 

IdaBriggs

(10,559 posts)
13. Sigh. My kids caught a YouTube video of "My Little Pony" that someone
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:57 AM
Dec 2013

had "dubbed" with adult language. My son didn't know what the F-word, B-word, and A-word meant, but he figured out very quickly that using them got an IMMEDIATE reaction. Then it became a game. (Not when mommy-and-daddy were around, and only when he got mad - yikes!)

Toss in his crazy memory, and to say it was an interesting couple of months would be an understatement! I about died of embarrassment when I heard him tell the school secretary to "F-off!" when he didn't know I was there! Of course, being six he immediately did the "I'm sorry I said a bad word!" sentence as if it were a "magic eraser" (got that from the school principal - lol!). Not my favorite parenting moment!



Ah, parenthood: apparently duct tape and a shock collar just don't work like they used to anymore! <== NOTE: This line is a joke.

eridani

(51,907 posts)
14. Invading other peoples' space should never be tolerated
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:59 AM
Dec 2013

Makes no difference if the invasion is sexual or not.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
17. preschool they even have a little song to teach the kids. tucking hands, crossing knees allowing
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 11:10 AM
Dec 2013

all to have their space. my youngest and i had to learn that song, or work on it, at home, cause he was failing. this would be age 4. where they start learning. or the time my kids first stepped into that social environment. forget the song, but was cute.

cbdo2007

(9,213 posts)
15. No but it can be harrassment.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 11:08 AM
Dec 2013

Have you ever been in a company's sexual harrassment training? They warned the men at our company that even commenting on a woman's earrings could be considered harrassment.

whttevrr

(2,345 posts)
16. What if your six year old daughter was being kissed repeatedly by two boys?
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 11:08 AM
Dec 2013

They were admonished. One stopped, but the other continued?

Is that innocent?

Should a little girl be able to say no? Is it ok to teach little girls that they have to submit to the will of others?

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