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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsSo a six year old boy kissing a girl is "sexual" now, is it?
Interesting theory.
Turbineguy
(37,206 posts)the meatgrinder.
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)But that sort of behavior has to be nipped in the bud early. Boys (well, all children for that matter) have to learn that no means no and to respect boundaries.
Blanket Statements
(556 posts)At 6?
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)I said in another thread about this I thought the school's reaction was too severe, and that they can still deal with it appropriately less harshly.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)That's how I see it.
lightcameron
(224 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)explore sexuality. damn straight. a problem? you really do not know this?
it is not adult world view of sex or sexuality, but it is an exploration. then they start up again about pre puberty
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Hence, a six year old accidentally shooting his little sister is not "tragic"?
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)How children mimic behavior and play pretend so they can learn their roles in society?
And to answer your straw man question, IT IS BEYOND TRAGIC.
It is what happens when children mimic behavior (picking up guns, pointing them at things, shooting) and the fool adults around them leave guns accessible.
Kisses and hugs as normal expressions of affection are not the same thing as leaving children near guns. This should have been one of those times when the children were taught about appropriate behavior and boundaries. ("We don't kiss people at school or work, and we don't kiss people who don't want us to kiss them. Hugs and kisses are reserved for family, like mommy, daddy, aunts, uncles, and grandparents. You can kiss non-family when you are a grown-up. Etc."
Arkana
(24,347 posts)IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)They see adults doing it, and mimic the behavior. Then, in a SANE world, the adults use it as an opportunity to discuss appropriate boundaries and behavior.
Only in crazy-town does it become adult level sexual harassment.
<== ON EDIT: Wrong smilie. Doh!
I've got twins this age - one boy and one girl. My daughter got "engaged" at age 4, and has had 'boyfriends" ever since - at one point, she left her "fiance's" house (yes, there is an eye roll there!), and went to an activity where she had her "other" TWO boyfriends. We had to discuss "no kissing" rules pretty early on (because she saw mommy and daddy doing it), and also make up rules about when our children are "allowed" to get married: after graduating college, both having good jobs, approval by the parents as to good character, and at least 21.
We are hoping early brainwashing sticks - lol!
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)to describe her bodies, theirs, and talked about how they wanted to rape her. She was just an assistant, and it was a very rough, underfunded school to the extent that this kind of thing was basically ignored. You'd never think kids that young could sexually harass an adult in the workplace, but that is what she endured daily there. Anyone who thinks all kids are innocent about this stuff, is naive.
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)had "dubbed" with adult language. My son didn't know what the F-word, B-word, and A-word meant, but he figured out very quickly that using them got an IMMEDIATE reaction. Then it became a game. (Not when mommy-and-daddy were around, and only when he got mad - yikes!)
Toss in his crazy memory, and to say it was an interesting couple of months would be an understatement! I about died of embarrassment when I heard him tell the school secretary to "F-off!" when he didn't know I was there! Of course, being six he immediately did the "I'm sorry I said a bad word!" sentence as if it were a "magic eraser" (got that from the school principal - lol!). Not my favorite parenting moment!
Ah, parenthood: apparently duct tape and a shock collar just don't work like they used to anymore! <== NOTE: This line is a joke.
eridani
(51,907 posts)Makes no difference if the invasion is sexual or not.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)all to have their space. my youngest and i had to learn that song, or work on it, at home, cause he was failing. this would be age 4. where they start learning. or the time my kids first stepped into that social environment. forget the song, but was cute.
cbdo2007
(9,213 posts)Have you ever been in a company's sexual harrassment training? They warned the men at our company that even commenting on a woman's earrings could be considered harrassment.
whttevrr
(2,345 posts)They were admonished. One stopped, but the other continued?
Is that innocent?
Should a little girl be able to say no? Is it ok to teach little girls that they have to submit to the will of others?
Vashta Nerada
(3,922 posts)The six year old boy is a sexual predator.