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Im from New Zealand, I posted this over at a New Zealand message boards, I got ripped into by some people,
and told to grow up, am I being too senstive? Or did I make good points, Below is what I posted.
( FOWARDS are a position in Rugby)
As someone with a lot of younger female relatives who play sport, I hate it when people are at their kids sport event and have to yell out comments like "your playing like girls" To me that is being negative towards female sports, and demeaning it and its not a good message to the young female kids who are there.
I was out today for my daily walk and there was a kid's rugby game on in the park and this guy about 60, was yelling and screaming at the kids (Who were about 8-10 years old) he started saying "Your running like girly fowards, go faster your playing like girly forwards, stop playing like girly fowards"
I stopped and said to a person next to him "My niece has a poster in her room of the American soccer player Mia Hamn with the words,
"When you say I Play like a girl, I take it as a compliment"
Then I just walked off, Despite little kids being there, he felt the need to let fly with a few F words.
Cant believe people still scream stuff out like this in the year 2012.
elleng
(130,126 posts)as it MEANS to suggest that females can't play well.
As to the year 2012, you are LUCKY you're not here, brettdale.
Thanks for the feedback
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)The saying equates poor performances with women.
zeemike
(18,998 posts)It would be that the idiot expected a 10 year old to play like men...there just kids and they don't need to be talked to like that...they need encouragement at that age not criticism like that...but some assholes expect kids to be fully formed when they play sports...which I think is silly as hell.
It is just a game.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)You post like a......?
zeemike
(18,998 posts)Or someone who thinks kids should not be bad mouthed and humiliated when they are just kids?
The girls reference is not the basic problem...it is just used as a pejorative just like spastic. moron, grandma or gram pa and retard.
LeftyMom
(49,212 posts)Aside from being a sexist dinosaur, nobody with a life worth leading would have the time or the inclination to yell abuse at ten year olds.
brettdale
(12,331 posts)Its not unusual at kids sports events here.
I remember going to a basketball game of my neice, (when she was 11) they were getting truly beaten, down by about 15-20 points with about 10 seconds left, her team got a three pointer, and the parents of the other team went crazy, saying "she walked she walked, and started booing like crazy" it was unbelievable.
obamanut2012
(25,906 posts)Girls have enough problems from society, here and in NZ.
And, being a fan of rugby and having dated a rugger, EVERYONE who plays rugby is a badass.
Good you for speaking up.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)I see misogyny there. But I didn't see any references to sexual orientation.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)most coaches i knew in my youth used them interchangably
obamanut2012
(25,906 posts)obamanut2012
(25,906 posts)Cave_Johnson
(137 posts)... but your response was reasonable.
On its face, women's sports are less violent and less aggressive and thus the play style reflects that.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)There is nothing more violent and aggressive in the world of sports. "less violent"
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)a lot of coaches use derogatory female slurs on the boy athletes to shame and humiliate. nothing good about that.
i had coaches for 15 yrs in a highly competitive sport of boys and girls side by side. i was lucky. they also got excellent performance out of us. my son and i were talking recently. he has a cross country coach that would never coach in that manner and a track coach who is also a football coach that does use those terms. the cross country coach took the boys to state.
it isnt necessary in coaching
brettdale
(12,331 posts)Excellent points.
deaniac21
(6,747 posts)several women who could be NFL linebackers but they aren't given a chance.
dflprincess
(28,057 posts)Several years ago the assistant coach on one of my nephew's little league (baseball) teams pulled the same sort of crap. Complaints to the head coach by me, some of the moms and even a couple dads (who also had daughters) didn't help. The kids were 10 or 11 years old.
One day they played against a team that had a girl on it. She could hit, she could pitch and she could throw - I swear she was single handidly responsible for her team winning the game. Most of the moms/aunts/grandmas/sisters on my nephews team had a hard time not obviously cheering her on. (We all swarmed the poor child after the game though to congratulate her).
After the game, as the butt-head assistant coach walked by I couldn't resist saying "I bet you wish they played like girls now."
brettdale
(12,331 posts)Love it!