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So my sibs and I sold the last connection to So. Maine today. (Original Post) OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 OP
'Congratulations,' I guess. elleng Oct 2021 #1
the one hand, it is financially OK OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #6
Gotcha elleng Oct 2021 #7
the world turns and leaves us behind. It was hard to admit that the "treasures" I've been saving .. marble falls Oct 2021 #2
Touching. cilla4progress Oct 2021 #4
"Our next generations will build their own family customs." PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 2021 #13
Yeah, my only connections to the island now are the family graves. GPV Oct 2021 #3
It can be hard to let go. My mother sold the house I grew up in long ago, rsdsharp Oct 2021 #5
My original town is too red. im pretty distant Tetrachloride Oct 2021 #8
We will be selling our New Hampshire place soon, Croney Oct 2021 #9
I guess that is the point. OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #10
Generational houses are great, but you reach a time where there are too many people involved bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #11
We did not want the nest generation to make the call. OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #12
I miss going to Maine. bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #14
Spelled it wrong, but it's still there. bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #15
Mr. Reilly was a good friend of my Aunt and Uncle. Ended up at BP 3 houses down From them OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #17
No kidding. We loved that place bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #18
The Wonderbar? I could tell you stories about that place OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #20
I don't think that was it bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #21
The palace diner bottomofthehill Oct 2021 #22
my childhood home is on the market. i am irrationally attached to it. mopinko Oct 2021 #16
Yeah, I get it. OAITW r.2.0 Oct 2021 #19
Last week, I just visited southern Maine for the first time in nearly 50 years EYESORE 9001 Oct 2021 #23

OAITW r.2.0

(23,862 posts)
6. the one hand, it is financially OK
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:22 PM
Oct 2021

On the other....no connection anymore.

Pretty, blah about the sale

marble falls

(56,359 posts)
2. the world turns and leaves us behind. It was hard to admit that the "treasures" I've been saving ..
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:15 PM
Oct 2021

... for my children, are of no interest to them. I'm clearing it out a bit at a time. Saying good-bye to memories and savoring them a last time.

Our next generations will build their own family customs. And we'll be at best faces out of the past, in pictures on a wall.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,750 posts)
13. "Our next generations will build their own family customs."
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:58 PM
Oct 2021

So true. And exactly as it should be.

When I can, I try to tell young people with young children NOT to spend every single Christmas and Thanksgiving with one family or the other. Establish, at least every other year, your own time together.

In 1990 I moved and wound up about thirty miles from my sister. I had two young children, she had three. She had us over for Thanksgiving, and at the end of the day I started to happily plan for Christmas together. She immediately cut me off. "No. Christmas is just for family." I'll admit I was hurt. But she was right.

We wound up trading Thanksgiving, one year at her house, one year at mine. Christmas with our own families. After a while, I started having them over for the first night of Hanukkah, as my husband was Jewish, and we cheerfully celebrated everything.

As to treasures, I know exactly what you mean. When I relocated halfway across the country after a divorce, I decided to promote the good china to being my everyday china. I doubt there is anyone in the next generation, or even the one after, that will ever want it, but I love it and now I use it every day.

I also have a great deal of jewelry, some of which is rather nice, other of which is not anything special. I have passed on a couple of things, but my main problem is that I have no daughters, only one son who is extremely unlikely to marry. So now daughters-in-law, no granddaughters. Darn. I do have two nieces and one grand-niece, so they may wind up with the bulk of my jewelry. One niece has been selling off comic books and such that my brother, who died in December, had collected over the years. I've told her she'll be left the one to sell off my stuff. Not entirely sure she wants to do that, however.

I have been quite good about not accumulating too much stuff, but I still, like most people, have more than I need or can do anything with. What I am good about is giving clothes to Goodwill or some such when I no longer want them. Also various other small things have been passed on to such places. It helps a lot that in the first ten years of my married life we moved about every other year, which kept us from accumulating too much stuff.

rsdsharp

(9,042 posts)
5. It can be hard to let go. My mother sold the house I grew up in long ago,
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:19 PM
Oct 2021

in 1985. Occasionally, I check the assessors web site in that county to see the changes. In my one brief trip back to my home town, 25 years ago, I drove past the house, and stopped to take a couple of pictures. Then I drove to the high school, and past my best friend’s house before heading to the courthouse for my hearing.

I haven’t set foot in that house in more than 36 years, and I sometimes still dream about it.

Croney

(4,646 posts)
9. We will be selling our New Hampshire place soon,
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:30 PM
Oct 2021

because daughter has bought a Maine beach house and her kids much prefer that to the woods. 30 years of memories... ski trips, snowy Christmas Eves, lake swimming. It was fun, but it's the past. Makes one melancholy to think of it.

OAITW r.2.0

(23,862 posts)
10. I guess that is the point.
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:41 PM
Oct 2021

The next gen had different connections..My kids zilch......others a lot more,

bottomofthehill

(8,261 posts)
11. Generational houses are great, but you reach a time where there are too many people involved
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 09:46 PM
Oct 2021

And you have to move on. You will have your memories and you hope the next generation gets to make their own. I have been going to Cape Cod since before I can remember. My Aunt bought a house there in the early 60’s and left it to my parents when she passed. Been in our family for almost 60 years, but the next generation will probably look to sell as it is a small house and there will be too many people involved.

bottomofthehill

(8,261 posts)
14. I miss going to Maine.
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 10:06 PM
Oct 2021

We went to Elliott a lot as kids, also Biddeford, we had family there. There was a great diner there and an even more amazing donut shop. Riley’s donuts. Fucking amazing. I have not thought of the place in years. Now I have to see if it is still there. A friend of my dad had a house on Peaks Island. We were always happy when invited there too.

bottomofthehill

(8,261 posts)
18. No kidding. We loved that place
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 10:22 PM
Oct 2021

The donuts were amazing and the woopie pie oh my god. There was also a little diner that we would go to. Maine was a day trip for us. My dad would get us all in the car at 6am and we would be through the Hampton tolls by 7. Donuts by 8.

bottomofthehill

(8,261 posts)
21. I don't think that was it
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 10:32 PM
Oct 2021

Although I did drink at a place in Worcester called the Wonderbar. I put the diner in a post to Elling and I can’t remember it now.

mopinko

(69,806 posts)
16. my childhood home is on the market. i am irrationally attached to it.
Fri Oct 8, 2021, 10:12 PM
Oct 2021

i've dreamed of moving back there a jillion times. i've done paintings about it.
if this plague hadnt kicked my ass, i would buy it as a rental.

but also kept the big house after the divorce, and cant give it up.
was talking to one of the kids today about the chance that he might land back here. he might. the others, unlikely. but i grew up in a rented house, and the idea that my kids will always have a place to land is important to me. they arent all nailed together real tight. my da died when i was 17, and losing that place threw me for a loop. so i want them to not have that displaced childhood.

there is so much of me in this place, tho. i've done so much work over the 35 years here, including a large ceramic mural. i cant imagine any one else loving it the way i do.
i've had a few roomies, and i think a home for wayward old ladies could be a thing.

EYESORE 9001

(25,812 posts)
23. Last week, I just visited southern Maine for the first time in nearly 50 years
Sat Oct 9, 2021, 09:35 AM
Oct 2021

It was incredible. If I were younger, I’d consider relocating.

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