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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsSo my sibs and I sold the last connection to So. Maine today.
My Aunt and Uncle's place...that we enjoyed for 25 year, Time to go. Because it could not work for the next generation.
elleng
(130,156 posts)Sorry.
Would like to still be there.
OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)On the other....no connection anymore.
Pretty, blah about the sale
marble falls
(56,359 posts)... for my children, are of no interest to them. I'm clearing it out a bit at a time. Saying good-bye to memories and savoring them a last time.
Our next generations will build their own family customs. And we'll be at best faces out of the past, in pictures on a wall.
cilla4progress
(24,589 posts)I feel you.
PoindexterOglethorpe
(25,750 posts)So true. And exactly as it should be.
When I can, I try to tell young people with young children NOT to spend every single Christmas and Thanksgiving with one family or the other. Establish, at least every other year, your own time together.
In 1990 I moved and wound up about thirty miles from my sister. I had two young children, she had three. She had us over for Thanksgiving, and at the end of the day I started to happily plan for Christmas together. She immediately cut me off. "No. Christmas is just for family." I'll admit I was hurt. But she was right.
We wound up trading Thanksgiving, one year at her house, one year at mine. Christmas with our own families. After a while, I started having them over for the first night of Hanukkah, as my husband was Jewish, and we cheerfully celebrated everything.
As to treasures, I know exactly what you mean. When I relocated halfway across the country after a divorce, I decided to promote the good china to being my everyday china. I doubt there is anyone in the next generation, or even the one after, that will ever want it, but I love it and now I use it every day.
I also have a great deal of jewelry, some of which is rather nice, other of which is not anything special. I have passed on a couple of things, but my main problem is that I have no daughters, only one son who is extremely unlikely to marry. So now daughters-in-law, no granddaughters. Darn. I do have two nieces and one grand-niece, so they may wind up with the bulk of my jewelry. One niece has been selling off comic books and such that my brother, who died in December, had collected over the years. I've told her she'll be left the one to sell off my stuff. Not entirely sure she wants to do that, however.
I have been quite good about not accumulating too much stuff, but I still, like most people, have more than I need or can do anything with. What I am good about is giving clothes to Goodwill or some such when I no longer want them. Also various other small things have been passed on to such places. It helps a lot that in the first ten years of my married life we moved about every other year, which kept us from accumulating too much stuff.
GPV
(72,377 posts)rsdsharp
(9,042 posts)in 1985. Occasionally, I check the assessors web site in that county to see the changes. In my one brief trip back to my home town, 25 years ago, I drove past the house, and stopped to take a couple of pictures. Then I drove to the high school, and past my best friends house before heading to the courthouse for my hearing.
I havent set foot in that house in more than 36 years, and I sometimes still dream about it.
Tetrachloride
(7,728 posts)Croney
(4,646 posts)because daughter has bought a Maine beach house and her kids much prefer that to the woods. 30 years of memories... ski trips, snowy Christmas Eves, lake swimming. It was fun, but it's the past. Makes one melancholy to think of it.
OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)The next gen had different connections..My kids zilch......others a lot more,
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)And you have to move on. You will have your memories and you hope the next generation gets to make their own. I have been going to Cape Cod since before I can remember. My Aunt bought a house there in the early 60s and left it to my parents when she passed. Been in our family for almost 60 years, but the next generation will probably look to sell as it is a small house and there will be too many people involved.
OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)Sibs decision 3-1....
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)We went to Elliott a lot as kids, also Biddeford, we had family there. There was a great diner there and an even more amazing donut shop. Rileys donuts. Fucking amazing. I have not thought of the place in years. Now I have to see if it is still there. A friend of my dad had a house on Peaks Island. We were always happy when invited there too.
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)on 4th St.
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)The donuts were amazing and the woopie pie oh my god. There was also a little diner that we would go to. Maine was a day trip for us. My dad would get us all in the car at 6am and we would be through the Hampton tolls by 7. Donuts by 8.
OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)The Droggitises ran an awesome place to eat
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)Although I did drink at a place in Worcester called the Wonderbar. I put the diner in a post to Elling and I cant remember it now.
bottomofthehill
(8,261 posts)mopinko
(69,806 posts)i've dreamed of moving back there a jillion times. i've done paintings about it.
if this plague hadnt kicked my ass, i would buy it as a rental.
but also kept the big house after the divorce, and cant give it up.
was talking to one of the kids today about the chance that he might land back here. he might. the others, unlikely. but i grew up in a rented house, and the idea that my kids will always have a place to land is important to me. they arent all nailed together real tight. my da died when i was 17, and losing that place threw me for a loop. so i want them to not have that displaced childhood.
there is so much of me in this place, tho. i've done so much work over the 35 years here, including a large ceramic mural. i cant imagine any one else loving it the way i do.
i've had a few roomies, and i think a home for wayward old ladies could be a thing.
OAITW r.2.0
(23,862 posts)Still sucks, though.
EYESORE 9001
(25,812 posts)It was incredible. If I were younger, Id consider relocating.