Do we have any Asian LGBT from "traditional" families?
Or any Asian posters at all who have experience. Just curious.
My boyfriend came out to his mom on Leap Day (we decided it should be a thing). She was appalled, then she was kind of ok, and now she's in, "I can fix you," mode. And both of us were wondering if perhaps people here had experience with this. His mother is first generation Chinese.
He's totally fine. And he's prepared to get over whatever her reactions. But I can tell it bothers him, and I'm floating far, far, far in the background so as to not make the situation any worse. She asked him to dinner on a weekend we were going to Chicago to meet my parents for the first time, and after he said he was going to Chicago with his boyfriend, her one text was, "Well, don't get sick." (And in case you're wondering, yeah, she meant HIV).
I have no intention of meeting her any time soon (even though she lives like four freakin blocks away). But I can tell he's hurt. They'd always been very close (the father abandoned like 15 years ago), and now he's come out, and her first thought was, "Which adult male abused you!!!!?"
It's not amazingly better that I'm 37 and he's 24. I'm like, "So, can I possibly meet your mother never?"
Is there an approach here, or . . .
Like I said, my default is not to go near the situation, but he wants his mom to accept him even though she's adamant.
Does anyone here have advice for obstinate Asian mothers?
