To those who claim that feminism is somehow about being "sex-negative"...

I don't buy it. At all.

Feminism is not about being "sex-negative" or "sex-positive," IMHO. That is a false lens through which to view this debate. Rather, it is about being sex-constructive, as opposed to sex-destructive.

Healthy expressions of sex and sexuality, based on individual agency, dignity, self-worth, respect, empathy, caring, love, playfulness/fun, and mutual attraction, is how I would define the "sex-constructive" approach. The sex-destructive approach is based on unwanted attention, deception, coercion, power differentials, repression, inequality, shaming, fear, abuse, violence, and ultimately, rape.

I think all of us in this group can agree that we want to promote the former (constructive approach, not the latter (destructive) one, as much as possible. Surely, women and men alike (as well as those of other gender identities) can agree to this? What is so damn controversial or unclear about this distinction?

Believe it or not, my fellow (straight) men...women love good (as opposed to bad!) sex just as much as men do! They just also appreciate being respected as individual human beings (crazy concept, I know! ), not being reduced to an object for any man to have his way with. And no, no one is entitled to sex, certainly not without the consent of the other human being (subject with his/her own individual autonomy and agency) in whatever situation it is.

Is this really so hard? I am a straight white man, young and relatively inexperienced compared to many here on DU, yet even someone like me can understand these concepts.

My $0.02.