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spicysista

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Gender: Female
Hometown: The South with an "F"
Current location: San Diego
Member since: Sun Jan 29, 2017, 06:55 PM
Number of posts: 1,500

About Me

I was practically born a member of the Democratic Party. I began registering people to vote while still in elementary school, often after Sunday school. I'm excited about the future of our party because good, in the end, always wins!

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Don't Be Best, Just Be Better

Don't Be Best, Just Be Better (Repost from Women's Rights & Issues Group)


To the Anti-Woman People out there:

You know, I've just had it. No, really. I'm done.
At this point, it is clear that your best still isn't good enough. Whatever your personal baseline of "best" is.....it is NOT ENOUGH. In short, you need to be better.

You need to be better at seeing my humanity.
Better at admitting mistakes.
Better at learning from those mistakes.
Better at not repeating those mistakes.
Better at educating yourself about human development.
Better at reaching across the isle of ideals to find solutions.
Better at accepting that you have no right to power over MY body.
Better at accepting that your rights end where/when they began to oppress mine.

To the Pro-Woman People out there:
I'm going to be better right here by changing the "you" to "I". Then, I'm going to kick that up a notch to bring it back to "we". We need to be better.

Better organized.
Better at directing/coordinating our efforts with sister organizations.
Better at never giving an inch in the fight for our right to control our body.
Better at sharing our stories.
Better at declaring that our sex does not limit our ability to think/do for ourselves.
Better at challenging the laws and anti-choice activists that, like herpes, keeps on returning time and time again.
Better at declaring our humanity.
Better at demanding nothing less than full recognition of that humanity.
Better at uplifting each other.
Better at educating each other about the various lanes our identities take us.
Better at acknowledging those differences not as separations but rather as the means by which society at large seeks to oppress us.
Just.......better.

I'm trying, daily. I hope you'll take me up on this too. Our future is too precious.

In love and peace....fight on.

Don't Be Best, Just Be Better

To the Anti-Woman People out there:

You know, I've just had it. No, really. I'm done.
At this point, it is clear that your best still isn't good enough. Whatever your personal baseline of "best" is.....it is NOT ENOUGH. In short, you need to be better.

You need to be better at seeing my humanity.
Better at admitting mistakes.
Better at learning from those mistakes.
Better at not repeating those mistakes.
Better at educating yourself about human development.
Better at reaching across the isle of ideals to find solutions.
Better at accepting that you have no right to power over MY body.
Better at accepting that your rights end where/when they began to oppress mine.

To the Pro-Woman People out there:
I'm going to be better right here by changing the "you" to "I". Then, I'm going to kick that up a notch to bring it back to "we". We need to be better.

Better organized.
Better at directing/coordinating our efforts with sister organizations.
Better at never giving an inch in the fight for our right to control our body.
Better at sharing our stories.
Better at declaring that our sex does not limit our ability to think/do for ourselves.
Better at challenging the laws and anti-choice activists that, like herpes, keeps on returning time and time again.
Better at declaring our humanity.
Better at demanding nothing less than full recognition of that humanity.
Better at uplifting each other.
Better at educating each other about the various lanes our identities take us.
Better at acknowledging those differences not as separations but rather as the means by which society at large seeks to oppress us.
Just.......better.

I'm trying, daily. I hope you'll take me up on this too. Our future is too precious.

In love and peace....fight on.



#Metoo May Be In Trouble...A Call to Arms

#Metoo May Be In Trouble...A Call to Arms (Reposted from the Women's Rights & Issues Group)

This is a plea to all sisters, everywhere. #Metoo is a wonderful movement that is bringing to the forefront an uncomfortable topic, sexual harassment, and its prevalence in the workplace. However, there is a looming problem on the horizon. For some, #Metoo has become too "Hollywood". I know, irony is dead, right? The "thing" that has helped the movement spread and give it the most visibility may also be what is holding back it's progress among new groups.

Take a moment to visit a few right wing sites and search "metoo". You will find a few common, but important themes in criticism of the movement. "It's an attack on OUR men and OUR boys" , "It's an attack on Christian values", and my favorite, "It's an attack on sexual freedom"! Okay, the last one is attributed to French actress Catherine Deneuve, but the other two were featured in several articles on various right wing websites.

These criticisms are heard from my neighbors (the vast majority of whom are white) during my visits back home. Where is home? The deep south, where victims of #metoo are not deciding whether or not to use the casting couch. Instead, these women (my neighbors specifically) are nurses, state workers, and teachers who have personally told my mom and I stories that would absolutely fit into the movement. However, they echo these talking points as if they are less worthy than the men who seek to victimize them.

Full disclosure, I'm a black woman, so I can not provide all the answers. Many of my white sisters find themselves in a peculiar situation.......both a victim and benefactor of white patriarchy. This makes speaking to this issue a very delicate but necessary task. As I've said, I do not have all of the answers. However, I know that in order for the movement to really make a difference, we must include as many people as possible.

I can think of a couple of very human solutions that may seem small, but may lead to big changes. The first, is marketing! #Metoo isn't just about Ashley Judd (but thank you for standing up, Ms. Judd), it's also about "Rose" at Ihop who's manager may take away her extra hours she so badly needs if she rebuffs his/her advances. #Metoo is the church secretary, "Claire", who's senior pastor greets her with a "playful" slap on the rear. We need to lift these stories so that more women, like my neighbors, can see themselves in #metoo.

The next, very human, solution I can offer is to "don't give up". I can't tell you how hard it was for me to get to where I am today with my neighbors. My "welcome" into the neighborhood, at a time when my mom was newly divorced and my only sister was in the hospital, consisted of the cops being called on us 4 times.......by a couple of those same neighbors. It's been a long road, but inspired by the graciousness of my mother and grandmother (along with a few hard conversations that took years of meaningful exchanges), we are here .

Why did I tell that story? What does it mean for you and the advancement of #metoo? As I stated, 'don't give up" . I can not count the number of times that I've read something like, "I don't talk to that part of my family because..." .These statements are often coming from white folks that are not talking to other white folks. Sisters! This can not continue.

Let me be clear, I'm not asking you to take abuse or subject yourself to anything unhealthy. But we must try a bit harder. Think about these glaring facts: (1) Roy Moore received 63% of the white female vote and(2) Donald Trump got 52% of the white female vote. It needs to be stated again, we must try harder.

#Metoo, ultimately, is about our society. It's about what we've tolerated as "normal" and tacitly condoned, collectively. In order to change that dynamic, it's going to take a seismic shift. Such a shift will require as many hands on deck as possible. This is a call to arms. Black, liberal, and minority sisters are mustering. We need help recruiting. Is everyone accounted for? What are you doing to help bring #metoo to your neighbors?




#Metoo May Be In Trouble...A Call to Arms

This is a plea to all sisters, everywhere. #Metoo is a wonderful movement that is bringing to the forefront an uncomfortable topic, sexual harassment, and its prevalence in the workplace. However, there is a looming problem on the horizon. For some, #Metoo has become too "Hollywood". I know, irony is dead, right? The "thing" that has helped the movement spread and give it the most visibility may also be what is holding back it's progress among new groups.

Take a moment to visit a few right wing sites and search "metoo". You will find a few common, but important themes in criticism of the movement. "It's an attack on OUR men and OUR boys" , "It's an attack on Christian values", and my favorite, "It's an attack on sexual freedom"! Okay, the last one is attributed to French actress Catherine Deneuve, but the other two were featured in several articles on various right wing websites.

These criticisms are heard from my neighbors (the vast majority of whom are white) during my visits back home. Where is home? The deep south, where victims of #metoo are not deciding whether or not to use the casting couch. Instead, these women (my neighbors specifically) are nurses, state workers, and teachers who have personally told my mom and I stories that would absolutely fit into the movement. However, they echo these talking points as if they are less worthy than the men who seek to victimize them.

Full disclosure, I'm a black woman, so I can not provide all the answers. Many of my white sisters find themselves in a peculiar situation.......both a victim and benefactor of white patriarchy. This makes speaking to this issue a very delicate but necessary task. As I've said, I do not have all of the answers. However, I know that in order for the movement to really make a difference, we must include as many people as possible.

I can think of a couple of very human solutions that may seem small, but may lead to big changes. The first, is marketing! #Metoo isn't just about Ashley Judd (but thank you for standing up, Ms. Judd), it's also about "Rose" at Ihop who's manager may take away her extra hours she so badly needs if she rebuffs his/her advances. #Metoo is the church secretary, "Claire", who's senior pastor greets her with a "playful" slap on the rear. We need to lift these stories so that more women, like my neighbors, can see themselves in #metoo.

The next, very human, solution I can offer is to "don't give up". I can't tell you how hard it was for me to get to where I am today with my neighbors. My "welcome" into the neighborhood, at a time when my mom was newly divorced and my only sister was in the hospital, consisted of the cops being called on us 4 times.......by a couple of those same neighbors. It's been a long road, but inspired by the graciousness of my mother and grandmother (along with a few hard conversations that took years of meaningful exchanges), we are here .

Why did I tell that story? What does it mean for you and the advancement of #metoo? As I stated, 'don't give up" . I can not count the number of times that I've read something like, "I don't talk to that part of my family because..." .These statements are often coming from white folks that are not talking to other white folks. Sisters! This can not continue.

Let me be clear, I'm not asking you to take abuse or subject yourself to anything unhealthy. But we must try a bit harder. Think about these glaring facts: (1) Roy Moore received 63% of the white female vote and(2) Donald Trump got 52% of the white female vote. It needs to be stated again, we must try harder.

#Metoo, ultimately, is about our society. It's about what we've tolerated as "normal" and tacitly condoned, collectively. In order to change that dynamic, it's going to take a seismic shift. Such a shift will require as many hands on deck as possible. This is a call to arms. Black, liberal, and minority sisters are mustering. We need help recruiting. Is everyone accounted for? What are you doing to help bring #metoo to your neighbors?



This op was posted at the slight nudging of another DUer. I hope she approves!

Freedom for my body, mind, and spirit.

This song has inspired me since my childhood days. The song is simply titled, "Freedom". It's a song by various female artists from the 1995 released movie, Panther. You'll see and hear big names like Queen Latifah, Mary J. Blige, TLC, and others. I sometimes feel that the complexities of the women's movement are just glossed over. Sisterhood and strengthening our connections across racial, social, and economic lines is crucial to the movement going forward. Be encouraged and stay lifted, sisters.
Freedom for my body. Freedom for my mind. Freedom for my spirit.





Freedom

An oldie, but a goodie! All this talent on one track...... it's almost too much! Be uplifted, my brothers and sisters!


Represent, young Naomi.



I have nothing to add. I'm just lifting up her message.

This.....Represent, young sister!



There's nothing for me to say. I'm just hoping to help Naomi shine!

More State Sanctioned Murder

The next time someone suggests, tongue in cheek or not, that more African Americans need to walk around with guns......remember this story. The "gun" was a cellphone this time. It has been a wallet in other incidents. The rules are always different for us. That's just how the country was founded. Sadly, it continues to be the modus operandi.

Thank you Symone Sanders!

As usual, Symone Sanders brings the truth. In this clip she expresses the concerns of many in the Black community concerning the current gun debate. She begins near the 4:00 minute mark. Listen and enjoy!
Apologies in advance if someone has already posted this clip.
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