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Response to backtoblue (Original post)

Fri May 18, 2018, 03:49 PM

42. Please Don't feel guilty.

I have been lurking in the halls of DU for a while. But, you're story moved me to register and reply.
I have worked in mental health field for years, primarily as full disclosure because I adopted a mentally challenged young lady 7 years ago, who is my world.

Tess put me into the professional world of mental health care, which I worked in for 6 years now, one of the biggest obstacles we deal with is guilt as you are having from family. It is normal.
We as professionals in my case have worked through this many times. My advice to you would be, accept the guilt, ( at some point as I am 57 yo now, I will not be able to care for Tess and will have to do same). Then, and this is big, become part of his life with the professionals, your brother is not gone, he has just gained a trained support group that can make his life so much better. Please be a part of that.

Your decision appears to be right and I am proud of you to have the strength to make it. We will keep you in our thoughts!

PS Enjoy all the DU forums and thoughts and discussions. Hope my little 10 cents of experience can help backtoblue

Koz

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