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GitRDun

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4. I'll start with I'm a guy.

Mon Sep 17, 2018, 07:52 PM

Sep 2018

This is it plain and simple for me..no one has any right to judge how someone reacts to the sexual violations you describe, or any others.

These are deeply personal intrusions..

As these violations come forward, you do the best you can to sort out what happened.

Speaking for myself, absent facts that show some other motive, my inclination is to believe the victims.

The humiliation of reliving these events of violation has to be horrendous. People don't just make this stuff up for no reason.

It seems to me that unless you can show some definitive motive to lie, the default goes to the victim.

I'm sorry for what happened to you.

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About girls and women not telling after they're attacked [View all] sinkingfeeling Sep 2018 OP

Blessings on you, sinkingfeeling mcar Sep 2018 #1

I'm sorry that happened to you. madaboutharry Sep 2018 #2

I know why. I'm so sorry it happened to you too. There is an embarrassment and shame Maraya1969 Sep 2018 #3

I'll start with I'm a guy. GitRDun Sep 2018 #4

Cosigned mythology Sep 2018 #21

Don't worry. I was molested riding alone on a city bus back in the late 1970s Tardislass Sep 2018 #5

You are not alone. Loryn Sep 2018 #6

No, you are NOT alone. Haggis for Breakfast Sep 2018 #16

When I was 12 a stranger tried to get me in a car. meadowlander Sep 2018 #7

Me too-- I was afraid my parents would react by somehow punishing me dawg day Sep 2018 #14

Me too OMGWTF Sep 2018 #17

F*** I am so angry for you. MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #20

Reminds me of a similar situation that happened to me at the same age Zing Zing Zingbah Sep 2018 #38

No, we don't tell because it's an ugly disgusting thing that happened to us. Hell, I can barely AnotherMother4Peace Sep 2018 #8

I believe most don't tell KT2000 Sep 2018 #9

Dear sinkingfeeling, Ohiogal Sep 2018 #10

You are the same as all of us, we remember secondwind Sep 2018 #11

Never told MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #12

Oh MM - you & me except I was 5-6: "Get to safety and keep quiet. Don't start anything" AnotherMother4Peace Sep 2018 #18

5 to 6 breaks my heart. I am so sorry MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #19

Yeah-pretty f**ked up stuff & when I hear Hatch saying: "She's mixed up"-I feel threatened again AnotherMother4Peace Sep 2018 #22

Horrific malaise Sep 2018 #13

... Solly Mack Sep 2018 #15

My daughter was molested. mommymarine2003 Sep 2018 #23

something similar happened to me and my sister renate Sep 2018 #30

I am so very sorry, mommymarine2003. pnwmom Sep 2018 #35

It happens to guys too TrogL Sep 2018 #24

My brother was assaulted MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #26

I'm sorry. I should have said that at the outset before telling my brother's story MaryMagdaline Sep 2018 #27

We were raised in an era of horrible misogyny. Duppers Sep 2018 #25

My mother is 95 and to this day LibDemAlways Sep 2018 #33

I was nearly date raped, and kept quiet. Liberty Belle Sep 2018 #28

You reminded me of my cousin's unique tactic SoCalDem Sep 2018 #36

How terrifying. Cracklin Charlie Sep 2018 #29

I have experienced sexual abuse all of my life. Doreen Sep 2018 #31

This message was self-deleted by its author LibDemAlways Sep 2018 #32

My assault happened at Madame Tussaud's Chamber of Horrors Blaukraut Sep 2018 #34

Why? First, discussing sexual experiences of any kind, with parents is uncomfortable whathehell Sep 2018 #37

I'm a man, and I was sexually assaulted as a child. I told no one. Adrahil Sep 2018 #39

Here's my story honeylady Sep 2018 #40

I'm so sorry that happened to you. MineralMan Sep 2018 #42

Thank you Mineral Man. It is appreciated n/t honeylady Sep 2018 #43

I had a friend in college, when I was just 19 years old. MineralMan Sep 2018 #41