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In reply to the discussion: 86'd on Christmas Day by (ex) boyfriend [View all]vlyons
(10,252 posts)Whenever you choose a husband, or boy friend, you also get ALL his family, his job, his friends, his hobbies, his religion, his politics, his sports teams, his debts, his strengths and his weaknesses. You get the whole package. That's why people date and have long engagements. To have time to see what all is included in that whole package. You should count your blessings that you got such a wide view of what all is included in your BF's package. Knowing what you now know about his family, friends, and character, you can make a wise decision about whether to invest any more of your precious time and energy into such a man.
Sounds like you've made your decision that he just doesn't measure up to meet your needs. Treat yourself as a special person, because you are. You are a lovely, sweet, good-hearted person. There are plenty more guys out there, who would be thrilled to have a nice person like you as a GF. So go out this week, and do something that you like to do to celebrate the new open space that you've created in which to move on to your life's next great adventure.
Always remember, that it's not about the content of what happens in your life, but about what you tell yourself about what happens. It's all about your point of view. You can view it as a great woe-is-me tragedy, or as a glad I escaped from wasting my precious time with that guy comedy.
Always maintain a cheerful attitude.
and BTW: his sister was a rude uncouth asshole for deliberately making you feel uncomfortable in her home -- especially at a Christmas family meal. A gracious hostess ALWAYS endeavors to make guests feel welcome, comfortable, and at ease in her home.