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In reply to the discussion: 86'd on Christmas Day by (ex) boyfriend [View all]hughee99
(16,113 posts)39. If I understand correctly, you went into a family gathering with your boyfriend,
And intentionally created a situation where he would be put in a bad spot and have to choose between you and them. You did this not because there were serious life choices that needed to be made, but for your personal amusement. And it bothers you that he wasnt loyal to you?
So you arent really looking for a man with a sense of loyalty in general, youre looking for one thats loyal only to you. In fact, you expect him to not be loyal at all to family hes known his whole life over a trivial matter that you intentionally created. It sounds like you need to find someone willing to give up every bit of their own identity to suit your desires, and he probably isnt that guy.
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Be true to yourself. Sounds like you were. Well done. Heal the hurt in your way and time.
IADEMO2004
Dec 2018
#6
Maybe I am being naive, but I just don't understand an outburst like that from the sister after
still_one
Dec 2018
#18
It sounds to me that deep down, you are sick of your boyfriend's shit and this was a manifestation.
TheBlackAdder
Dec 2018
#26
Sooner or later, people show you who they are and where their loyalties lie...
Wounded Bear
Dec 2018
#27
We just had Christmas without the family...to avoid our version of what you describe...
Sancho
Dec 2018
#29
Sometimes we just want to stir the pot a bit...even if we promised ourselves we wouldn't. It's ok!
UniteFightBack
Dec 2018
#33
I suspect your ex has taken back up with his ex & the fight was an excuse to dump you.
catbyte
Dec 2018
#38
If I understand correctly, you went into a family gathering with your boyfriend,
hughee99
Dec 2018
#39
In such a situation, both the (ex) boyfriend and the original poster should have excused themselves.
Texin
Dec 2018
#44
Under the guise I sending family pics to I asked all my righty family members to open air drop on
Pepsidog
Dec 2018
#47
Christmas dinner is the wrong time to argue about politics/religion. Using that event as a litmus
jalan48
Dec 2018
#49
"I stoked the fires unnecessarily. I recognize I was pushing buttons. I couldn't help it."
TexasBushwhacker
Dec 2018
#52
Well, first of all, you simply quoted a bible passage. How they interpret it is solely up ...
SWBTATTReg
Dec 2018
#66