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In reply to the discussion: Black women are tired of explaining to white women why they should care about everyone's interest [View all]StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)You're being very defensive and suggesting that she is "blaming" people and it's "closing the door on alliances" as if it's her job to not say anything that might offend allies or they won't be allies anymore.
Allies are allies. And true allies don't mind being told the truth about things. And telling a black woman that she shouldn't tell white women (and #notallwhitewomen, just the ones who are doing what she's talking about) because that means she's blaming "others" and not being "helpful" is just the kind of attitude that she's talking about.
It's really frustrating to see the defensiveness to an honest take on what's happening here. I understand and agree with exactly what she's saying. But I already get it, so she's not talking to me. I wish the the people who really need to understand it weren't so defensive in their "I'm an ally so how dare you say anything that makes me think you're criticizing me" defensiveness. THAT is what isn't helpful.