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Response to onecaliberal (Original post)

Sat Nov 30, 2019, 01:22 AM

148. I have a suggestion for you to ponder.

You're being robbed of your moral right to be a part of your grandchildren's life and upbringing, as is traditional in most civilized cultures. Let's start with that as a foundation.

Further, you own a level of moral authority that is above your daughter because you gave birth to her and raised her.

My suggestion is thus: find out the organizational structure of the church they attend and request a meeting with one of the high-level officers of that organization, whom I assume would also be a minister. Lay out your dilemma to him or her from a humanist moral standpoint, and not from a doctrinal viewpoint of any church because you would just get in a pissing match over secular doctrine. You wouldn't even need to reveal you daughter and son-in-law's name, just say "one of your churches".

Just explain to him/her you feel you should not be rejected from participating in that family simply because you don't attend their church or share their politics. If they reject your argument and are willing to quote the basis for that, I would be tempted to let them know there's consideration of either taking it to a higher level of authority within that church OR exposing that practice to public media such as state-level newspapers.

Further, if they are making an official pronouncement that the church says they must reject you because of your political beliefs, I would be having a chat with the ACLU or SPLC.

However, should you get lucky and the higher-ups agree with you, get them to write a letter of proclamation you can present to your kids to consider, and hopefully you can reunite with your daughter.

Often, these local pastors execute doctrinal practices they have designed to satisfy their ego which are not in compliance with the official doctrine of that organization. You deserve to know if that's the case here. After they are ordained, many of these dime-store preachers seem to think they are saints and have the right to declare what (their) god wants and does not want as if they have a direct line to heaven. Such proclamations in my view are human creations and are 100% false.

Something to think about and best of luck........

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