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[abqtommy]

3. My Mom died this last November 11. She was 95, had bladder cancer, wasn't in pain and

died in her sleep with her caregiver present, miles away from me. Since I've had possession of most of
Moms stored things for many years (due to the caregivers desire to make room) I did a quick inventory
of Mom's stuff then set it aside. Now that she has died I've gone through it thoroughly. Some things I've kept for myself and some things I've sent to my niece, mostly because she's the only family member who showed any interest. I've got the wedding ring that my step-Dad bought for Mom when they were married in 1957 (I was there) and I wear it around my neck. I have photos, greeting cards and even
3 dollars cash (in Kennedy half dollars) I found. I also have a few of the rocks my Mom collected, ones that I gave her years ago. I think having these physical mementos helps out the grieving process.
Yes, my Mom was a pack rat and I'm glad. As far as I'm concerned, memories and grieving go nicely
together.