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BobTheSubgenius

(11,535 posts)
70. I really feel badly for you. Honestly.
Thu Dec 24, 2020, 11:07 AM
Dec 2020

And just as honestly, I wish there was something I could say that would help...but what could I say that you haven't already said to yourself? Probably several times.

My Christmas is going to be spent at the home of my ex-wife and her current (and appears to be final) husband. They are great, and so welcoming, but still. You have to wonder what happened to your life when your "bubble" consists of your ex and her SU.

Don't get me wrong. I'm super-happy to have them in my life. But not so much today...or perhaps especially today. I can't even make up my mind, so I don't even try.

I hope something happens in your day that brings back the joy you long for. Everyone needs at least a little of that.

I'm struggling. [View all] AirmensMom Dec 2020 OP
I'm sure you express what many of us feel. Take good care of yourself. n/t ariadne0614 Dec 2020 #1
Trying. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #6
I'm so sorry Danmel Dec 2020 #2
You put it perfectly. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #9
Just play the music JI7 Dec 2020 #3
LOL AirmensMom Dec 2020 #10
Really. Music can lift spirits. wnylib Dec 2020 #16
I'm going with the Christmas music. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #97
++++ KPN Dec 2020 #93
Amen Calculating Dec 2020 #134
AMEN! BadGimp Dec 2020 #155
And re-watch The Grinch... lame54 Dec 2020 #189
You are not alone. And the realization that 99% of our sadness is the direct fault of the person Atticus Dec 2020 #4
Yes, it is pretty upsetting AirmensMom Dec 2020 #11
What's so maddening is not that IQ45 luvtheGWN Dec 2020 #79
I'm sorry. I understand. Both of my parents died in the past year, JenniferJuniper Dec 2020 #5
You've been through a lot. chia Dec 2020 #12
I am so sorry for your loss. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #13
Yes, just play the music ornotna Dec 2020 #7
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #17
Click the link ornotna Dec 2020 #27
You've eloquently expressed what so many of us have been feeling this year, each one of us has chia Dec 2020 #8
Fake it till you make it? AirmensMom Dec 2020 #19
Yep! chia Dec 2020 #28
WE have a lot in common. Zoonart Dec 2020 #14
Handel Messiah sing along ... AirmensMom Dec 2020 #25
Oh, yes - there is the Nashville Symphony Orchestra which inhabits soldierant Dec 2020 #195
I'm with you,,,, KarenS Dec 2020 #15
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #26
Truth be told, I'm sure that many of us feel the same way. Arkansas Granny Dec 2020 #18
I don't know how to feel about that. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #31
Our DIL is recovering from COVID, as did Mr Nay's brother and his wife. They have come out Nay Dec 2020 #68
more common than not as depression is prevalent from all directions, luckily recreational beachbumbob Dec 2020 #20
Never thought of that. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #34
sooner or later Tn will as its about revenue to the state coffers, the numbers out of Illinois for beachbumbob Dec 2020 #47
The struggle is real SallyHemmings Dec 2020 #21
Actually, the responses are so helpful. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #42
Hugs! SallyHemmings Dec 2020 #71
Sending you extra hugs today.... FM123 Dec 2020 #22
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #45
... handmade34 Dec 2020 #23
It's good enough. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #46
Baby steps, AM. Hugin Dec 2020 #24
Someone said to me a few weeks ago AirmensMom Dec 2020 #49
... Hugin Dec 2020 #53
Wait ... AirmensMom Dec 2020 #99
I've never seen ants hauling a rubber tree... Hugin Dec 2020 #119
LOL AirmensMom Dec 2020 #124
Well then, may we all be ants. calimary Dec 2020 #208
Most of us feel the anxiety, North Shore Chicago Dec 2020 #29
Oh wow. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #50
Thanks for reminding me! intheflow Dec 2020 #183
I swear that I could have written this... Freedomofspeech Dec 2020 #30
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #54
You are so right... Freedomofspeech Dec 2020 #84
You will be in my thoughts today..may all the DU support you asiliveandbreathe Dec 2020 #32
All the DU support AirmensMom Dec 2020 #56
You're not alone. Malmsy Dec 2020 #33
I know. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #57
Be tired and discouraged because these are normal reactions blogslut Dec 2020 #35
OK! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #60
If you're still exercising wryter2000 Dec 2020 #36
Actually, AirmensMom Dec 2020 #62
I'm struggling too. mgardener Dec 2020 #37
I'm so sorry. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #63
You are not alone. ananda Dec 2020 #38
You are wise. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #64
Thanks. ananda Dec 2020 #78
Hard to imagine that most people aren't struggling... MissMillie Dec 2020 #39
I'm sure they are. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #67
Hang in there, kiddo! essaynnc Dec 2020 #40
Well, the thing is AirmensMom Dec 2020 #69
😀😃😄😁😆😅🤣 essaynnc Dec 2020 #74
Most of us are there with you. Lonestarblue Dec 2020 #41
27 more days. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #73
You are not alone. Ohiogal Dec 2020 #43
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #75
I look back to Christmas 2016, right after Trump was elected, and recall having a small glimmer sop Dec 2020 #44
I had no such hope. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #76
Thanks for sharing - I am with you. This one is a strange Christmas NRaleighLiberal Dec 2020 #48
Very strange. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #95
my wife and I started it 5 or so years ago. NRaleighLiberal Dec 2020 #116
We love you Roy Rolling Dec 2020 #51
Perhaps. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #96
This will be my first Xmas HipChick Dec 2020 #52
I'm so sorry. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #101
I get it. luvs2sing Dec 2020 #55
You have had way too much loss. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #105
Many of us struggling samplegirl Dec 2020 #58
I have no doubt of that. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #107
Nobody will ever forget 2020. William769 Dec 2020 #59
We will hope. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #108
Agree Lilaclady Dec 2020 #61
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #112
You're not alone seta1950 Dec 2020 #65
No, I'm not. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #117
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Dec 2020 #66
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #120
This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Dec 2020 #121
I really feel badly for you. Honestly. BobTheSubgenius Dec 2020 #70
It has happened. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #122
There is nothing normal about this Christmas. TNNurse Dec 2020 #72
You are right. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #125
Thank you for your kind thoughts. TNNurse Dec 2020 #146
I saw that too. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #163
It's ok. sarge43 Dec 2020 #77
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #126
You're more than welcome. sarge43 Dec 2020 #154
Well, AirmensMom. Y'know what? world wide wally Dec 2020 #80
Ok, fine. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #127
Another voice to add to your responses birdographer Dec 2020 #81
Great idea! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #128
I think a lot of us feel discouraged. We are on the home stretch to sanity, though. PatrickforO Dec 2020 #82
Thank you so much! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #140
I hope you can find some joy and some love. Merry Christmas Botany Dec 2020 #83
Thank you for posting the flashmob video. Totally Tunsie Dec 2020 #94
I was looking for Ode to Joy and that video came up ... it had been years since I had seen it Botany Dec 2020 #98
...and a very Merry Christmas to you also! Totally Tunsie Dec 2020 #103
Flash mobs are the best! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #137
Music is international. It touches our soul. BarbD Dec 2020 #139
Sad On Christmas Eve JGug1 Dec 2020 #85
One complication is AirmensMom Dec 2020 #133
You're doing Yoga! Better than me LittleGirl Dec 2020 #86
I have to do it first thing. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #136
Well done! Cheers! nt LittleGirl Dec 2020 #188
I got the Thursday "ask" (for today) for our Call to Action email. I wrote a "poem" calimary Dec 2020 #87
That's great! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #141
There is a I_UndergroundPanther Dec 2020 #88
Thanks. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #142
I hear you. Mickju Dec 2020 #89
Well, there is one thing ... AirmensMom Dec 2020 #143
I am so so sorry all this is coming down on you right now...esp all your losses.. samnsara Dec 2020 #90
Ouch! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #145
Here's my favorite Christmas song Larissa Dec 2020 #91
Love it! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #147
Beautiful, thanks for posting. I visited King's once while appalachiablue Dec 2020 #157
This message was self-deleted by its author CatLady78 Dec 2020 #92
She cannot be convinced. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #160
January 21st is nearly here bluecollar2 Dec 2020 #100
26 Days, 23 hours, 59 Minutes, and 59 Seconds. But who is counting? Botany Dec 2020 #115
Brilliant!!! N/T bluecollar2 Dec 2020 #118
Yes! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #162
Merry Christmas! n/t bluecollar2 Dec 2020 #207
My household mirrors your feelings mdbl Dec 2020 #102
Denial works. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #148
You've expressed very well what many of us think and appalachiablue Dec 2020 #104
I was a musician. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #150
I'm so sorry vercetti2021 Dec 2020 #106
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #151
Wish that would help vercetti2021 Dec 2020 #184
It is and has been a struggle.... Heartstrings Dec 2020 #109
No one is unscathed. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #152
You're so correct..... Heartstrings Dec 2020 #159
I knew what you meant. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #161
Thank you. Heartstrings Dec 2020 #167
This message was self-deleted by its author ElementaryPenguin Dec 2020 #110
This thread has helped beyond description! cilla4progress Dec 2020 #111
Thank you so much for sharing that! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #158
You are a treasure, cilla4progress Dec 2020 #171
I hear you, sister . . . and feel every bit of your anguish . . . OneBlueSky Dec 2020 #113
Thanks. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #164
Start with one song. CrispyQ Dec 2020 #114
I've listened to 3 albums already! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #165
I feel the same way liberal_mama Dec 2020 #123
I'm so sorry. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #166
Just realized reading this I haven't listened to a song either! marlakay Dec 2020 #129
Try it. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #168
Robbie is a golden retriever marlakay Dec 2020 #198
I totally get it. StarlightGold Dec 2020 #130
OMG! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #169
Actually figuratively but StarlightGold Dec 2020 #180
For me it's the rage I feel all the time. Blaukraut Dec 2020 #131
Yes. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #170
Hugs to you! SheltieLover Dec 2020 #132
I did that. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #172
Glad the music helped! SheltieLover Dec 2020 #187
Take a vacation from politics and cut screen news out of your life. Hortensis Dec 2020 #135
I only read in the morning. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #173
Okay, let's examine, what have you collectively and individually "lost" Hortensis Dec 2020 #185
It is a rough time. The effects of covid are overwhelming on so many levels. Vivienne235729 Dec 2020 #138
You are correct. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #174
Birds. Can you see birds outside your window? Grasswire2 Dec 2020 #144
Well, not today. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #176
Tonight in East TN it'll be in the teens feel like 4. I took in a stray dog SammyWinstonJack Dec 2020 #149
Good for you! AirmensMom Dec 2020 #177
Right there with you Dukkha Dec 2020 #153
Hugs to you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #178
Thanks for sharing this. You expressed yourself beautifully. mtnsnake Dec 2020 #156
Thank you. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #179
Not alone x 80,000,000 Catalunya Dec 2020 #175
Yeah. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #181
I am losing my mind. Initech Dec 2020 #182
Depression is ravaging us like Covid. SleeplessinSoCal Dec 2020 #186
You're not alone in this. I care about the meaning of Christmas, but not what it has turned into. sprinkleeninow Dec 2020 #190
I understand. happy feet Dec 2020 #191
It's okay to feel this way MustLoveBeagles Dec 2020 #192
For what its worth dianaredwing Dec 2020 #193
The Orange Monster is on his way out and sellitman Dec 2020 #194
I hope I can make you feel better mvd Dec 2020 #196
Sending healing thoughts your way dlk Dec 2020 #197
"When I'm not on the verge of tears, I'm in a rage inside or just numb." llmart Dec 2020 #199
AirmensMom... Upthevibe Dec 2020 #200
Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2020 #201
I am so sorry you feel this way bottomofthehill Dec 2020 #202
Death of a parent + trump caused it thru his lack of warning + our Laura PourMeADrink Dec 2020 #203
I'm sorry you are feeling so down ... electric_blue68 Dec 2020 #204
Sorry AirmensMom! smirkymonkey Dec 2020 #205
This message was self-deleted by its author Dark n Stormy Knight Dec 2020 #206
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