I changed my avatar today

[iverglas]

5. boo!

No, not "boo!" as in "get off the stage".

As in: I'll bet you didn't expect to see me here. And recommending your post.


Your story about your mate reminded of an exchange with a man I was dallying with by email, lo these many years ago in the early days of the internet. He was a fair bit older than me - not a generation older, but possibly of an older generation. And we had the intellectual hots for each other to be sure for a while, but ultimately didn't meet.

I asked him whether he didn't want to be wanted by a woman. And he said oh yes, that was the male dream, the perpetually available woman.

He actually didn't know what I was talking about, it seemed. To be wanted: not to have someone make themself available.

And yes, I think your anecdote was quite relevant to your point, and your point is of course us complainers' own.