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wnylib

(21,146 posts)
23. Been there many times myself.
Tue Mar 2, 2021, 05:37 PM
Mar 2021

In fact, being a gray-haired retired senior now is liberating.

Except ... a couple evenings ago, walking down a well lit, well travelled street just after it turned dark, with a full bag from a convenience store, a stranger asked if the bag was heavy and offered to carry it for me. At my age, that sounded more like a set up for a mugging than being hit on, so naturally I said, "Thank you. I'm fine." HIM: Are you sure? ME: Yes, it's good exercise to keep a senior fit. HIM: You look ageless, anywhere from 30 to 50. ME: (silently, in my mind) Get real. What can you see under the mask, winter coat, and hat, anyway? (Aloud to him): 71.

I started walking away and he said, "You don't look it. Is that your own hair?" My hair is salt and pepper, but only a few wisps of salt were visible from under my hat. ME: All mine. Have a nice day. HIM: Just 12 years older than me.

I did not answer, just kept walking. Should I complain that he harrassed me and risk getting laughed out of court? Be flattered? Or wonder, does it ever stop?

Right on! Kath2 Mar 2021 #1
OMG. This is EXACTLY correct. LakeArenal Mar 2021 #2
Been there many times myself. wnylib Mar 2021 #23
I think never....They don't call some, dirty old men because of hygiene. LakeArenal Mar 2021 #37
When I was a cocktail waitress, had a boss who used to calll me "Big Butt" Dream Girl Mar 2021 #45
Because it hurt, that was enough to say it repeatedly. LakeArenal Mar 2021 #47
Oh dear. That reminds me of a friend wnylib Mar 2021 #52
when i was 25 ... i got fired because i wouldn't have sex with the boss Trueblue1968 Mar 2021 #65
Me too Faux pas Mar 2021 #3
Thanks for posting, Trueblue1968.. Permanut Mar 2021 #4
Damn, where were you when I was 20? wnylib Mar 2021 #25
Hung around with the guys who would confront and ridicule these clowns.. Permanut Mar 2021 #59
You did fine. Good to be reminded that wnylib Mar 2021 #64
1976 employer: You didn't tell me you were MARRIED! flor-de-jasmim Mar 2021 #5
Ha! I got propositioned by a VP shortly after I got married. He said "married women don't tell" SharonAnn Mar 2021 #8
High school and the creep who would follow me in the hallway trying to touch my butt zeusdogmom Mar 2021 #6
Report it? What the hell was the point? Mariana Mar 2021 #9
You forgot the big one. Ka-Dinh Oy Mar 2021 #24
Some "boys" never grow up zeusdogmom Mar 2021 #50
You said it. NT enough Mar 2021 #40
Bingo! zeusdogmom Mar 2021 #46
Excuses Mary in S. Carolina Mar 2021 #78
No, these were not "excuses". Mariana Mar 2021 #79
same here. damn! everyone even has to take a "sexual harassment seminar" IcyPeas Mar 2021 #7
I was 16, NotAPuppet Mar 2021 #10
A very gutsy comeback - did he fire you? TheRickles Mar 2021 #29
No, NotAPuppet Mar 2021 #32
A good resolution, thanks for sharing it. TheRickles Mar 2021 #35
When I was 16 and babysitting a neighbor's kids, wnylib Mar 2021 #36
No shit. Jilly_in_VA Mar 2021 #11
Me too. It started when I was 15 working at Burger King. It steadily continued from there on. amywalk Mar 2021 #12
Same here. Duppers Mar 2021 #13
I've had female co-workers and even bosses Mr.Bill Mar 2021 #14
Try living in Latin America! Bluesaph Mar 2021 #15
My s-i-l tells me it's standard OP in Italy too. Duppers Mar 2021 #21
I live in Rio Piedras on Lake Arenal. LakeArenal Mar 2021 #39
I live in southern Cali. Bluesaph Mar 2021 #58
Ever been Date Raped? I have. OMGWTF Mar 2021 #16
Date rape that they didn't think was date rape womanofthehills Mar 2021 #72
Ain't that the truth! bamagal62 Mar 2021 #17
To clarify things: Aussie105 Mar 2021 #18
Or maybe parents should do a better job at raising their boys Fullduplexxx Mar 2021 #20
+100000 Ms. Toad Mar 2021 #30
good pop in the nose ?? the advice is directed at women, prevent "boys from being boys." Trueblue1968 Mar 2021 #76
Yes, exactly DesertRat Mar 2021 #70
I am not now (nor was I when you were between 10 and 70) Ms. Toad Mar 2021 #33
Well this clarifies one thing for sure. NT enough Mar 2021 #42
Poor boyz. Am I right? LizBeth Mar 2021 #54
The power of a union. multigraincracker Mar 2021 #19
That's the way it's done. progressoid Mar 2021 #38
It's sad that this made me laugh and radical noodle Mar 2021 #22
I got my mother's big mouth Warpy Mar 2021 #26
Yup. Ms. Toad Mar 2021 #27
Started when I was 16 and finished when I was about 45. Chalco Mar 2021 #28
Many of us have lived that misery. Pongo Mar 2021 #31
My sister had 5 older brothers zipplewrath Mar 2021 #44
I would say, what if I am? Would that stop you or make you worse? LakeArenal Mar 2021 #49
Yep, I could have written this. Pacifist Patriot Mar 2021 #74
Right on. I was in my late 30's before I started ratchiweenie Mar 2021 #34
How many of the hundreds are Governors? n/t pnwmom Mar 2021 #41
Yep. If we can go back 50 years, I.could put hundreds in the sinkingfeeling Mar 2021 #43
jeez, i must have don't even try on my forehead. of course maybe i just ignored it. pansypoo53219 Mar 2021 #48
Yep. And worse, when a woman speaks out, it affect her position in a company. LizBeth Mar 2021 #51
This message was self-deleted by its author ego_nation Mar 2021 #53
In the interests of equality bucolic_frolic Mar 2021 #55
This is probably the wrong place to recommend that. Better if you go start your own thread... Hekate Mar 2021 #75
I'm reading my life story throughout this thread! chowder66 Mar 2021 #56
Being ugly has its benefits. KentuckyWoman Mar 2021 #57
I agree, I worked in a man's business world and it was all the time Bev54 Mar 2021 #60
First one in high school. redstatebluegirl Mar 2021 #61
Take Back your Power through Lawsuits Mary in S. Carolina Mar 2021 #62
Every guy from 18 up should read the posts on this thread. PatrickforB Mar 2021 #63
+1 LizBeth Mar 2021 #77
Your post is spot on Trueblue1968, nearly all of us women have suffered some form of iluvtennis Mar 2021 #66
i hate to assume orleans Mar 2021 #67
Amen, Sister, amen. Joinfortmill Mar 2021 #68
K&R Blue Owl Mar 2021 #69
Exactly I would be a rich woman the number of times men have said inappropriate things to me in kimbutgar Mar 2021 #71
Wish I knew then what I know now. Pacifist Patriot Mar 2021 #73
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