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tymorial

(3,433 posts)
17. Honestly, it shouldn't even matter. I know what you mean though.
Sun Sep 5, 2021, 07:17 PM
Sep 2021

There is no heart as we understand it. It's an excuse to ban abortion.

This decision and law has caused some horrible feelings and emotions to resurface in my home. My wife needed to terminate 2 pregnancies. One was labeled an abnormal pregnancy because it occurred outside the uterus. It was early enough that a DC wasn't necessary but it still meant ending what we hoped would become our baby. This probably would have occurred under the Texas law but the second one wouldn't and it would have buried us.

My wife and I struggled for years to conceive. I pushed for testing a treatment because we were just not conceiving. My labs were normal, not great but normal. My wife was fine. We were just older, approaching 40. We met late.

Anyway, she became pregnant after the 3rd IUI and everything was fine until we went for the 12 week ultrasound. There were some abnormalities in the images that led the radiologist to believe there was a high degree if probability that our baby would be trisome. We had the tests done and waited for the next ultrasound. The doctor showed us all that was wrong with out boy. His arms were deformed, his abdomen was open and his intestines were out... it was obvious in the ultrasound even to us. We learned he was trisome 18, Edwards. It was devastating. He may not survive the pregnancy. If he was delivered, he would die in the first year and would never leave the hospital. Would he be in pain? Would it be torture? There was no decision to be made. It was right to terminate and save our baby boy from pain.

I have his ultrasound images in a lock box in my office. My wife can't bare to see them. We named him Alex.

My wife's life wasn't at risk. She was in no danger of dying. He wasn't a mistake. We wanted him. But we would have been forced to just wait it out and see what happened. What kind of torture would that have been for us? What if he lived until 6 or 7 months into the pregnancy? My wife delivers our dead child who is terribly deformed? Can you imagine the psychological trauma of that? Would my wife and I survive? He'll, would our 5 year old daughter be here today?


So yeah, thr Texas law is very real for people like us. 1 in 2500 pregnancies. That is the statistic. Some family is going to go through the torture I just outlined and it's totally inhumane.

Yes - as I understand it KT2000 Sep 2021 #1
the pulse helps the cells align. at 6 wks, it's a tube of cells. mopinko Sep 2021 #4
And the heart's circulation isn't "set" until birth, or Ilsa Sep 2021 #9
it pumps the fetuses own blood around mopinko Sep 2021 #22
What about all those frozen embryos that people discard Bev54 Sep 2021 #7
Depends on who you ask. They aren't even embryos yet, just people's hopes & dreams... Hekate Sep 2021 #18
👍 Joinfortmill Sep 2021 #2
And it doesn't matter. I can't be forced to give blood or donate a kidney RandomNumbers Sep 2021 #3
I think that should be -34 weeks instead of 6 weeks MiniMe Sep 2021 #24
Zygote for ten weeks? LakeArenal Sep 2021 #5
Thanks for sharing that. littlemissmartypants Sep 2021 #19
It is not a fetus but an embryo at that stage. Bev54 Sep 2021 #6
Thank you. evolves Sep 2021 #8
Doesn't matter how big it is. If someone doesn't want to be pregnant, they shouldn't have to be. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2021 #10
Exactly. SammyWinstonJack Sep 2021 #12
This gentleman (well, I try) agrees...nt Wounded Bear Sep 2021 #26
Kick and recommend. bronxiteforever Sep 2021 #11
And unless I am wrong, iwannaknow Sep 2021 #13
my understanding is that barbtries Sep 2021 #14
+100000 Pachamama Sep 2021 #23
Somebody ought to tell this to baby center.com, they talk about a heartbeat, etc. Jon King Sep 2021 #15
It's a flutter, not a heartbeat. BC should clarify that. ecstatic Sep 2021 #31
Good points. At that stage, it's just an embryo. TheRickles Sep 2021 #16
Honestly, it shouldn't even matter. I know what you mean though. tymorial Sep 2021 #17
I'm weeping with you... albacore Sep 2021 #21
I never heard that before. Its really wonderful tymorial Sep 2021 #25
You deserve it... ALL of it. The shot of "pain in the ass" and everything. albacore Sep 2021 #29
... markie Sep 2021 #20
No, scientific fact never stands in their way. Collimator Sep 2021 #27
I appreciate your post and breakdown tavernier Sep 2021 #28
Kickin' for Truth Faux pas Sep 2021 #30
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