We gave up by the time our daughter was conceived. We laugh that she is a classic, a total cliché. She was conceived after we gave up all fertility treatments.
We tried for about 2 years on our own after getting married. Our siblings are younger than us by 4 or 5 years but they married their spouses the same year as us in 2010. They became pregnant easily and it really bummed us out. We started fertility treatments and we got pregnant the first time but it was an abnormal pregnancy. We tried another iui and failed. The 3rd IUI ended as I described. Our doctor believed IVF would be successful so we went that route. We had 2 rounds but neither ever resulted in a pregnancy. According to our doctor the hormone levels and sperm count were perfect and it was just timing. There was no reason to not try for a 3rd. We couldn't do it anymore. It wasn't the financial cost. Our state required fertility coverage by insurance. It was the emotional cost and devastation.
Anyway, after the last failed IVF I had to travel for a few weeks. I went to New Orleans for a job, came back for a couple days and then headed off to Pennsylvania. Our cat was very sick and she has been with me for 16 years. I felt awful leaving her and when I came back I knew she held on just for me. Trust me, that cat definitely did. She was my buddy through very hard times before I met my wife.
Anyway, we put her to sleep knowing it was necessary. My wife and I comforted each other and reconnected as a husband and wife in love should...
5 weeks later we found an article about a trio of cats that needed adopting and were all close. They could only be adopted together. We reached out to the agency and we were able to get them. A week later after settling in I realized that my wife had not had her period in some time. I knew that wasn't unusual given the IVF. Sometimes it can take a month or two but this was closer to 3 months. I suggested to her that she might be pregnant. She said no way that is possible but she did a home pregnancy test one morning at work (yes, at work. I know.. it's odd to me too but that's my bride.)
She called me and told me that she was pregnant. I laughed. That was my response. I laughed because if the irony, because we had such a horrible past year, because we just adopted the damned cats as our fur babies. Mainly I laughed because I was so excited and it was the only response.
Our daughter was born a little over 7 months later. She was conceived just after I returned from my last trip. She is 5 now, just entered kindergarten and has a double shot of stubborn pain in the ass attitude from her mother and I.
She really is our miracle baby. 
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