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LuckyCharms

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9. Being a full or partial caretaker is a physically and
Sun Oct 31, 2021, 12:25 PM
Oct 2021

mentally draining activity. We generally tend to ignore our own well being while taking care of others. It is now time for you to honor your mother by thriving, by taking care of yourself again. This is what she would want for you.

Carry internal happiness within you, because you looked after your mom. That is something to be forever proud of.

You do not need to defend your religion to anyone. Everyone has different religious beliefs, and some have no religious beliefs. No one walks in your shoes, and you walk in no one's shoes. Embrace your faith. It belongs to you, and no one else.

None of us can individually control political activities very much, but we can vote. Vote and encourage other to do the same. Support campaigns that you are aligned with.

Do not depend on other people to help you with your grief, because as I rudely found out, they don't really help anyway. Sometimes "your friends" turn out to be "your acquaintances", and your family turns out to be "people I am related to".

The upside to all of this is this is you have scaled some steep and difficult walls. You have taken the right road. You have done what needed to be done. Be quietly proud of that. Be quietly proud of your beliefs, and most of all, love yourself. If you do this, you will be the happiest you have ever been.

I feel for you. I think many of us have reached exhaustion level. Hope things get brighter for you Walleye Oct 2021 #1
I find myself using the word "exhausted" a lot lately PatSeg Oct 2021 #8
The only thing that helps me is going out for a walk. Now cold weather is coming I don't know what Walleye Oct 2021 #12
I go outside whenever I can PatSeg Oct 2021 #40
I am sometimes immersed in British murder mysteries Walleye Oct 2021 #46
You too? PatSeg Oct 2021 #47
So true. American crime dramas are nothing but cliches, mostly. No decent writing or storyline Walleye Oct 2021 #48
Yes, there are very few Masterpiece programs PatSeg Oct 2021 #51
Yes, I am addicted xxqqqzme Nov 2021 #88
Oh you would love Acorn and/or BritBox PatSeg Nov 2021 #98
yes this. panchobarnz Nov 2021 #78
Welcome to DU! PatSeg Nov 2021 #97
Who is attacking you for being a Christian? leftstreet Oct 2021 #2
Hey, I'm an Atheist and got multigraincracker Oct 2021 #4
Can't Atheists fight over exactly WHICH god(s) they don't believe in? JustABozoOnThisBus Oct 2021 #45
So I'm learning. multigraincracker Oct 2021 #60
We believe in no god or gods, so by definition there is nothing to fight over in terms of selective Celerity Oct 2021 #76
Ummmm ... soldierant Nov 2021 #77
Calling it a metaphor is now starting to invent a different religion, as you are playing Celerity Nov 2021 #80
I'm interested in that also. ret5hd Oct 2021 #14
I'm not religious, but Christianity is frequently attacked here at DU. BlackSkimmer Oct 2021 #19
I'll "attack" any Abrahamic Monotheism, maxsolomon Oct 2021 #21
Why are you "attacking" Abrahamic Monotheism? ECL213 Oct 2021 #26
I generally don't "attack", but I will discuss the things you mention. maxsolomon Oct 2021 #30
Agreed... ECL213 Oct 2021 #54
I've seen the odd comment here and there... ShazzieB Nov 2021 #79
Where??? I have not seen that either...Where is this coming from? Escurumbele Oct 2021 #31
I've been a member here a long time. BlackSkimmer Nov 2021 #102
I don't identify as "christian" so not sensitive to this, but think the attacks are on Evangelicals. lark Nov 2021 #99
It is not usually a "you stupid Christian" attack. Jakes Progress Oct 2021 #22
See, that's the problem right there. Act_of_Reparation Nov 2021 #95
You lack theological basics. Jakes Progress Nov 2021 #103
When we are stressed, we tend to think in absolutes. vanlassie Oct 2021 #27
I wish your first paragraph in particular could be beamed into the psyche of everyone on Facebook renate Oct 2021 #34
I was immersed in this coursework for several years before vanlassie Oct 2021 #43
more words of wisdom! renate Oct 2021 #69
I learned thru a now 40 year old program called More To Life. vanlassie Oct 2021 #72
You forgot something sarisataka Oct 2021 #58
It is continual, even here. ForgedCrank Oct 2021 #66
Should I presume that was a rhetorical question? Fortinbras Armstrong Nov 2021 #96
It's very hard to get past those feeling. multigraincracker Oct 2021 #3
I am with you... Pachamama Oct 2021 #5
Just accept you as you malaise Oct 2021 #6
(((((hugs))))) 2 Meow Momma Oct 2021 #7
Being a full or partial caretaker is a physically and LuckyCharms Oct 2021 #9
So sorry about your mom and all, Peacetrain. Hortensis Oct 2021 #10
so sorry about your mother's passing... stillcool Oct 2021 #11
I am sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a family member recently but other friends & colleagues hlthe2b Oct 2021 #13
I'm so sorry. redwitch Oct 2021 #15
Hang in there and sorry for your loss kimbutgar Oct 2021 #16
Many of us are going through this also.... and yes, it helps to share with DU.. secondwind Oct 2021 #17
I'm sorry. Mickju Oct 2021 #18
You're grieving. It will get better. maxsolomon Oct 2021 #20
Glad we left childfreebychoice Oct 2021 #23
You are not alone. Not at all. CrispyQ Oct 2021 #24
A little blessing KatK Oct 2021 #25
Who is attacking you for being a Christian???? I have seen the opposite...where is that happening? Escurumbele Oct 2021 #28
Why the badgering and harsh words? MerryBlooms Oct 2021 #73
With you. ancianita Oct 2021 #29
I hope you will be gentle with yourself, BlueSky3 Oct 2021 #32
Many of us are exhausted and with good reason. But , here is where I found hope today. BarbD Oct 2021 #33
I'm so sorry for your loss, & feeling despondent. I can relate. CaptainTruth Oct 2021 #35
It's stressful times for sure BlueJac Oct 2021 #36
Writing it down is an excellent idea. calimary Oct 2021 #37
Many here share your feelings tiredtoo Oct 2021 #38
My deepest sympathy to you, Peacetrain! I'm very sorry your mother passed. I know how you feel LaMouffette Oct 2021 #39
Sorry about your mother. Jetheels Oct 2021 #41
Oh, I'm so sorry cally Oct 2021 #42
You are in deep grief. Stay away from GD for awhile & explore the wealth of other groups here... Hekate Oct 2021 #44
Just get vaccinated and let natural selection do it's work. roamer65 Oct 2021 #49
Forgot to add this... Hekate Oct 2021 #50
Hugs to you MustLoveBeagles Oct 2021 #52
Been there. Texaswitchy Oct 2021 #53
We have politics every day of the year now unfortunately. pwb Oct 2021 #55
You're not alone ymetca Oct 2021 #56
I think a lot of us are dangerously close to burning out FakeNoose Oct 2021 #57
Sending you hugs MLAA Oct 2021 #59
Wish I could give you I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2021 #61
Panther, I'm so sorry. hamsterjill Oct 2021 #64
Thanks I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2021 #71
So sorry about your mom. Elessar Zappa Oct 2021 #67
She was my best friend too I_UndergroundPanther Oct 2021 #70
Oh, Panther, I'm so sorry Bettie Nov 2021 #94
oh markie Oct 2021 #62
You need a hug! lunatica Oct 2021 #63
Amazing Underconcern For Elderly Safety From Covid FrankTC Oct 2021 #65
I'm really sorry for your loss. Yes, writing does help, ecstatic Oct 2021 #68
My deepest condolences, Peacetrain. MerryBlooms Oct 2021 #74
This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver Oct 2021 #75
This is one of my favorite songs for when everything looks like crap. ShazzieB Nov 2021 #81
Grief cate94 Nov 2021 #82
Sorry about the loss of your Mom Sherman A1 Nov 2021 #83
I'm too tired to read all these comments Roy Rolling Nov 2021 #84
But I try to wake up early Roy Rolling Nov 2021 #85
And Lastly Roy Rolling Nov 2021 #86
i feel ya. eggplant Nov 2021 #87
Sorry about your loss. Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2021 #89
Sorry for your loss Just_Vote_Dem Nov 2021 #90
Breathe.... Karma13612 Nov 2021 #91
Sending you a hug. Joinfortmill Nov 2021 #92
Peacetrain I am so sorry for your loss. bronxiteforever Nov 2021 #93
I am so very sorry for your loss drexelkathy Nov 2021 #100
Upside down world TFRD Nov 2021 #101
sorry to hear that... myohmy2 Nov 2021 #104
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