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pnwmom

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19. My mother didn't get to the point of applying because she was told there was no point

Reply to Ms. Toad (Reply #17)

Sat May 14, 2022, 04:21 PM

May 2022

because she didn't qualify and he had to help. Also, the process described in the WA Post article sounds more humiliating than she could have stood. She was filled with shame, even though the situation was no one's fault.

"I felt like I was under an inquisition," the woman said last week, requesting anonymity because she is awaiting a decision from the priests. "After leaving that interview I almost said, forget it. It was just really a creepy feeling. It felt invasive. I thought, who were these people to be judging me?"

I wonder how much the statistics are affected by people who gave up like she did, thinking it wasn't worth it to go through all that because there was no chance.

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Considering potential bans on Abortion, Contraception, and the LGBT... [View all] Florida Bull May 2022 OP

Jesus Christ Florida Bull May 2022 #1

Well, abortion was quite popular in Rome at the time of... TreasonousBastard May 2022 #3

They will just get annulments. Ms. Toad May 2022 #2

It's very difficult to get annulments. My parents didn't qualify pnwmom May 2022 #6

It depends on where you are. Brooklyn is the Catholic Reno. Scrivener7 May 2022 #9

I've heard that as a reason. However, being gay wasn't considered a sign pnwmom May 2022 #16

Crazy. Scrivener7 May 2022 #20

Everyone I know who wanted one, got one. Ms. Toad May 2022 #14

My mother was persistent. But the Church law was clear, so it depended pnwmom May 2022 #15

The participation of both spouses is not required for a church annulment. Ms. Toad May 2022 #17

My mother didn't get to the point of applying because she was told there was no point pnwmom May 2022 #19

My point was that, if you're willing to put up with the process, you can get an annulment. Ms. Toad May 2022 #23

Despite your BIL, you clearly understand that Catholics are as split as other Americans. pnwmom May 2022 #25

Correct - which is what bothers me. Ms. Toad May 2022 #27

That's kind of awful. He wanted her to stay married to him? Scrivener7 May 2022 #21

No, they were divorced and he didn't care about going through a humiliating annulment, too. pnwmom May 2022 #22

Do State governments Florida Bull May 2022 #18

Under some circumstances. Ms. Toad May 2022 #24

I'm a free spirit. But they are going to end up coming after me next. Lady Freedom Returns May 2022 #4

Forget second marriages, TFG and Giuliani both had three Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #5

Rush Limbaugh was married four times and had no children. Thank you Darwin! madinmaryland May 2022 #26

Jesus taught that lust for other women in a man's heart already constituted adultery milestogo May 2022 #7

The Biblical objection to divorce was to protect women Freddie May 2022 #8

NC has a ban on adultery dsc May 2022 #10

How is that Tickle May 2022 #11

I think it isn't enforced often dsc May 2022 #12

Adultery is already illegal in several states X07Y39-Alpha May 2022 #13

It feels like splitting hairs, Florida Bull May 2022 #28