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63. To me - I love to respond nicely when someone is an asshole

Mon Aug 22, 2022, 08:34 PM

Aug 2022

And ask them a question about what they said. Another good one is to make like you didn’t hear them and ask them to repeat it. It often confuses them and they change the subject. No need for me to be nasty just because they are... I was listening to a yogi on a podcast a few weeks ago and he said being a yogi means not being reactive to others. So, you are an asshole, but I don’t have to react to you.

I think you did just fine with the MAGA guy. Giving him a huge old smile might just really confuse him. When someone wants to get a reaction from you, but they can’t that is sometimes a win.

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Had a run in with a MAGA hatted Trumper at the Dollar Tree (it turned out well) [View all] Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 OP

You did the right thing WA-03 Democrat Aug 2022 #1

You hurt his fragile ego by not expressing yourself his way. Ego is a brain byproduct, brain's Karadeniz Aug 2022 #2

He's using cannulated oxygen? Aristus Aug 2022 #3

I hope he enjoys his Socialist Oxygen NBachers Aug 2022 #52

My grandmother never smoked a day in her life, Ms. Toad Aug 2022 #59

A couple of years ago I encountered a real 'peach'. Siwsan Aug 2022 #4

There's nothing like having some Christian rise up in a self-righteous rage Mariana Aug 2022 #22

He might have served the spirit of the season better thecrow Aug 2022 #29

I might have responded "Blessed be!" Maeve Aug 2022 #5

I do that! and for the same reason Hekate Aug 2022 #9

And I'll bet they have no idea re: that greeting! calimary Aug 2022 #32

I'd be tempted to go full Handmaid and say "Blessed be the fruit!" ShazzieB Aug 2022 #46

Or "under his eye." snort japple Aug 2022 #53

Wow that was a cool phrase to search IbogaProject Aug 2022 #48

There's also a Christian song titled "Blessed be.... Duppers Aug 2022 #66

The hymn is usually pronounced more like "blest" and the phrase is often "bless-ED" Maeve Aug 2022 #67

Indeed! Thanks. Duppers Aug 2022 #68

I usually say that when a clerk says the have a blessed day nonsense. Liberal In Texas Aug 2022 #69

I see all these people wearing F-- Joe Biden shirts doc03 Aug 2022 #6

I'll buy one! Evolve Dammit Aug 2022 #37

Oh, you don't need to have one made! ShazzieB Aug 2022 #43

I would likely have replied to him: "a super day to you as well." pandr32 Aug 2022 #7

I don't consider blessed necessarily religious. LakeArenal Aug 2022 #8

He was wearing a MAGA hat Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #10

As I said.... I realize he meant the opposite. And just liked to chide a person. LakeArenal Aug 2022 #12

Should say to him: "Oh I've got 2 of those hats, Captain Zero Aug 2022 #72

me too. barbtries Aug 2022 #38

Same, but it was obvious that this was a rebuke to my Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #40

what a sad way to live barbtries Aug 2022 #64

I would have given him the stink eye LeftInTX Aug 2022 #11

I almost gave him my middle school "You spoke over me" look that can freeze Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #14

Or, "May his noodley appendage touch you in all the right places!" Sky Jewels Aug 2022 #16

"Allah be praised!" Would be my response ZonkerHarris Aug 2022 #13

Well bless his heart. JHB Aug 2022 #15

I know the feeling of being recognized XanaDUer2 Aug 2022 #17

That 'blessed' (or what I hear often: 'bless day)grates on me but I just smile and say 'You, too!" CurtEastPoint Aug 2022 #21

It grates on me, too. hamsterjill Aug 2022 #36

Yeah, me too. TomSlick Aug 2022 #54

Nero Wolfe used to say (or snarl) soldierant Aug 2022 #62

It's worse in school believe it or not- they'll call the school board members Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #23

Omg XanaDUer2 Aug 2022 #27

That "blessed day" mess doesn't bother me- we ARE in the South Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #30

I'd have turned to him and said "and YOU can have shit day, asshole" and walked out Hugh_Lebowski Aug 2022 #18

I was thinking "Go fuck yourself," but I like yours better utopian Aug 2022 #24

I am 4 years from retirement Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #25

"You have a blasted day as well!" Conjuay Aug 2022 #19

Welcome to DU, Conjuay! calimary Aug 2022 #34

You should have said, 'May the lord open.' CurtEastPoint Aug 2022 #20

It had been awhile for me but had an encounter at the grocery last week. UTUSN Aug 2022 #26

Good on you. Littlered Aug 2022 #28

Cause we all know that Jesus clobbered everyone who didn't say "Merry Christmas" 70sEraVet Aug 2022 #31

try maybe sideways: "and good parents teach their kids to mind their own fucking business, right?" bringthePaine Aug 2022 #33

I say your response was PERFECT! bluestarone Aug 2022 #35

This was Fox and O'Reilly's attack on Christmas BS. And the person you encountered swallowed it. Evolve Dammit Aug 2022 #39

Agreed. The week before the kiddos come back is exhausting Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #41

One way I have approached this is ... ZERTErYNOthe Aug 2022 #42

I would have said Dirty Socialist Aug 2022 #44

Damn, I wish I had thought of that Thtwudbeme Aug 2022 #65

I would have said, boy aren't you the judgemental asshole! Emile Aug 2022 #45

Well they do have on a red hat? pwb Aug 2022 #47

This is what I say in response..."And may that force be with you." Tikki Aug 2022 #49

You are a wonderful teacher. Thank you for your service to our country. enough Aug 2022 #50

Next time, tell them that "Blessed Be" is a thing wiccans & pagans say to each other Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2022 #51

I'd go with "Hey, can you buy those hats here now?" nt Shermann Aug 2022 #55

Was backing into a parking spot prior to last election tiredtoo Aug 2022 #56

I'd have said something along the lines of, Ms. Toad Aug 2022 #57

LBJ said it best. GreenWave Aug 2022 #58

Bless you grantcart Aug 2022 #60

A lot of MAGAts seem to be control freaks. CaptainTruth Aug 2022 #61

To me - I love to respond nicely when someone is an asshole womanofthehills Aug 2022 #63

I have been spared this, luckily DFW Aug 2022 #70

I think I'd respond with "inshallah"! and add "Sorry, force of habit!" eppur_se_muova Aug 2022 #71