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In reply to the discussion: UPDATE: Today, I will be turning off life support for my father... (He passed away quietly...) [View all]Maru Kitteh
(28,313 posts)55. Allow for the possibility that your brother simply couldn't cope with watching
his father actually die. It seems (bright or not) very likely he is feeling some guilt, remorse, and probably fear. Focusing on money may have been his way of not dealing with the harder business of facing his real emotions. "Oversleeping" is easier than watching your father die. "Oversleeping" is easier than dealing with unbearable emotions surrounding his inability to save your dad.
The death of a parent leaves family members with distorted emotions, usually dialed up to 11.
Be good to yourself, first. Be the best version of yourself that you can be right now, when you can -and give yourself grace when you can't.
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UPDATE: Today, I will be turning off life support for my father... (He passed away quietly...) [View all]
Layzeebeaver
May 2023
OP
You've done an incredible job from that distance and served your father well
Docreed2003
May 2023
#6
So sorry to hear. I know what you're goin through... been there with my momz.
InAbLuEsTaTe
May 2023
#10
So sorry for all you've been through, loss of your mother..now this heart wrenching decision
RestoreAmerica2020
May 2023
#12
I am so sorry for you. Such a sad decision to have to make. May your father rest in peace.
LoisB
May 2023
#13
I am sending hugs. May you soon find comfort in remembering the good times with your dad
MLAA
May 2023
#33
You are not alone with this. I, and many here at DU, are holding you in love and sorrow. n/t
TygrBright
May 2023
#44
I'm so sorry to hear about this tragic situation. You're doing what's best,
highplainsdem
May 2023
#49
I will be thinking of you today, but this is not a small nor an easy thing to have to decide.
Backseat Driver
May 2023
#50
Allow for the possibility that your brother simply couldn't cope with watching
Maru Kitteh
May 2023
#55
i am so sorry for the loss of your father...rest in peace to your dad...and i am sorry
dawn5651
May 2023
#60
What a mess. May your Dad cross gently. May you be gentle with yourself. May your brother calm down.
Hekate
May 2023
#68
I'm so sorry for your ordeal. Try not to blame your brother and become bitter.
Liberty Belle
May 2023
#81