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In reply to the discussion: UPDATE: Today, I will be turning off life support for my father... (He passed away quietly...) [View all]FirstLight
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It's so unfortunate when we have to deal with uncomfortable sibling situations especially surrounding our parents demise. Last year when my mom passed my sister and I had not had a real relationship in probably a couple decades and so I found myself overcompensating because I thought that she didn't like me and she ended up in charge of everything of course because she's older.
I'm lucky, I have spent the last year doing grief counseling and cultivating my relationship with her when I thought that it was going to be non-existent once our parents passed our dad just passed away this week almost 12 hours to the dot exactly before Mom's Day of passing and we were both much better equipped to handle it and more there for each other because we had been dealing with taking care of dad over this last year and all of that clusterfuk.
It's such a hard decision to make we had to do it with both my parents to just basically tell them to give palliative comfort care and stop poking with them.
I can't imagine how you're dealing with it from afar and especially with the sibling who doesn't seem to have all his ducks in a row.
I'm grateful for this du family they have definitely been comforting me in this past week and I hope that I can send you some comfort too.
It's hell, middle age your kids leave the house and your parents leave the planet.
Huge hugs we're all here for you.💔❤️🥰