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84. Thank you so much for letting us in to share your journey, Layzeebeaver.
Sat May 27, 2023, 03:23 AM
May 2023

I went through this with both my parents and my dear mother-in-law. There are times of so many mixed feelings. There are the moments when you don’t know what to pray for: a miracle recovery or safe passage. Part of you wants them around forever but other parts of you want them released from the pain and suffering that sometimes seem to drag on so cruelly.

Just know you have many friends here. You won’t have to carry this burden alone.

It is not a small thing. I feel for you. Take care of yourself. Walleye May 2023 #1
I'm so sorry. phylny May 2023 #2
You are doing a good job from far away. Irish_Dem May 2023 #3
You seem like a strong and practical person canetoad May 2023 #4
Wishing you love and strength through this hard, frightening loss. ancianita May 2023 #5
You've done an incredible job from that distance and served your father well Docreed2003 May 2023 #6
That is a very hard decision to make. brer cat May 2023 #7
That truly is tough. hamsterjill May 2023 #8
sincerest sympathy DonCoquixote May 2023 #9
So sorry to hear. I know what you're goin through... been there with my momz. InAbLuEsTaTe May 2023 #10
My condolences Ohio Joe May 2023 #11
So sorry for all you've been through, loss of your mother..now this heart wrenching decision RestoreAmerica2020 May 2023 #12
I am so sorry for you. Such a sad decision to have to make. May your father rest in peace. LoisB May 2023 #13
Oh, dear Layzeebeaver, how heartbreaking for you. thatcrowwoman May 2023 #14
I'm very sorry for your loss dlk May 2023 #15
I am so sorry that you are going through this and so far away.... samnsara May 2023 #16
Prayers for your dad. God bless. Joinfortmill May 2023 #17
I'm sorry. madaboutharry May 2023 #18
I am so sorry mgardener May 2023 #19
Wishing you comfort True Blue American May 2023 #20
Hug for you. tavernier May 2023 #21
Hugggggs, holding you and your father in light and love in this very difficult niyad May 2023 #22
Losing a parent is so hard. AmBlue May 2023 #23
Sending love to you. Hope22 May 2023 #24
Sending you all of my love... Goddessartist May 2023 #25
It is no small thing, and I send my condolences. flor-de-jasmim May 2023 #26
Yes, this is very important. lark May 2023 #32
Making the decision to "pull the plug" is such an excruciating one. lark May 2023 #27
I am sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy May 2023 #28
Being so remote must make it difficult RainCaster May 2023 #29
My condoleneces Chautauquas May 2023 #30
((Layz)) blm May 2023 #31
I am sending hugs. May you soon find comfort in remembering the good times with your dad MLAA May 2023 #33
So sorry, for your loss..Trying to do it remotely is hard HipChick May 2023 #34
So difficult cate94 May 2023 #35
I am so sorry, Layzeebeaver. peacebuzzard May 2023 #36
What a difficult time. Strength to you. Gentler passing for him. electric_blue68 May 2023 #37
I am so sorry. WinstonSmith4740 May 2023 #38
I'm so sorry Danmel May 2023 #39
You, your father, and brother are in my prayers, Layzeebeaver! pazzyanne May 2023 #40
Peace and strength to you. It must be especially hard to be so far away Tanuki May 2023 #41
Your brother is not responsible for your Dad's hospital bills Farmer-Rick May 2023 #42
Maybe the father doesn't have health insurance? LisaL May 2023 #61
Right, then the estate is charged Farmer-Rick May 2023 #73
Well we don't know what the situation is. LisaL May 2023 #75
So sorry DownriverDem May 2023 #43
You are not alone with this. I, and many here at DU, are holding you in love and sorrow. n/t TygrBright May 2023 #44
Been almost there, done almost that DFW May 2023 #45
I am so sorry. Wishing you peace. onecaliberal May 2023 #46
Hang in there plcdude May 2023 #47
Certainly not a small thing for you. vlyons May 2023 #48
I'm so sorry to hear about this tragic situation. You're doing what's best, highplainsdem May 2023 #49
I will be thinking of you today, but this is not a small nor an easy thing to have to decide. Backseat Driver May 2023 #50
Sorry IbogaProject May 2023 #51
Condolences Jean Genie May 2023 #52
I'm so sorry. area51 May 2023 #53
I hate to think what I would do to my brother.. Permanut May 2023 #54
Allow for the possibility that your brother simply couldn't cope with watching Maru Kitteh May 2023 #55
I am so sorry. pandr32 May 2023 #56
So sorry to hear this sad news. Swede May 2023 #57
I Faux pas May 2023 #58
I'm so sorry for your loss and your acutely stressful situation. yardwork May 2023 #59
i am so sorry for the loss of your father...rest in peace to your dad...and i am sorry dawn5651 May 2023 #60
Holding you in light and comfort Wild blueberry May 2023 #62
That has to be one's toughest 3auld6phart May 2023 #63
I'm so sorry. geardaddy May 2023 #64
Sorry For Your Loss NowISeetheLight May 2023 #65
I am so sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote May 2023 #66
... Nevilledog May 2023 #67
What a mess. May your Dad cross gently. May you be gentle with yourself. May your brother calm down. Hekate May 2023 #68
So sorry Wicked Blue May 2023 #69
Peace in however you can find it world wide wally May 2023 #70
it IS a frighteningly big thing. And it is awful no matter the process. Hamlette May 2023 #71
So sorry.... spanone May 2023 #72
So very very sorry diva77 May 2023 #74
Peace to you and yours. sheshe2 May 2023 #76
OMG I'm so sorry FirstLight May 2023 #77
This is not a small thing. I am so sorry for your Dad and for you. Stinky The Clown May 2023 #78
Only time heals the heart OhNo-Really May 2023 #79
My mom passed in circumstances DonCoquixote May 2023 #80
I'm so sorry for your ordeal. Try not to blame your brother and become bitter. Liberty Belle May 2023 #81
How heartbreaking for you! summer_in_TX May 2023 #82
Know it's hard, horrible. You've got to trust Laura PourMeADrink May 2023 #83
Thank you so much for letting us in to share your journey, Layzeebeaver. calimary May 2023 #84
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