Serious question

[Marthe48]

119. I had a thought awhile back

Men won't go through the physical pain of giving birth and from the time people understand the entire process of pregnancy and delivery, we have to accept that our mothers suffered for us and we can never repay them for that suffering. The shame some people have for causing their mother pain can't be resolved and in some people, it turns into anger. Not to make it crass but how many people owe money and get mad at the lender because they can't pay?

Most mothers release the debt, or do the best they can to make their born children know they were worth every pang. Other mothers tap into the universal guilt and shame to keep an edge on their children, especially boys.

The unspoken debt we all owe Mom goes beyond the delivery of the born child. Maybe not so much any more, but the burden of care fell largely on the mother-feeding, cleaning, teaching, nurturing. The adult men who haven't forgiven themselves for the pain they caused their Mom might also feel resentment that Mom saw them naked and vulnerable. As a culture, we still teach men that they must be strong and able. Knowing that they were completely reliant on their mother, a woman, for their very survival, is going to fuel that unrecognized anger and once again, flip love and affection into anger and contempt.