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highplainsdem

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39. I'm so sorry. So many in the modeling and film industries are predators, as are their friends and associates. I once
Thu Sep 4, 2025, 04:02 PM
Sep 2025

had the boyfriend of a woman I was friends with set up an appointment for me with an agent doing some casting for a major film. I didn't want to go - had two actress roommates and I knew I did not have their skills and training (Royal Academy of Dramatic Art, Juilliard), so this was asinine - but my friend said I had to go or her much older boyfriend would be upset. Was relieved to discover I was the wrong ethnicity for the speaking roles that were left. My friend Laurie, who'd made sure I went to the appointment, was the right ethnicity, but she didn't want a minor role in the film, either. We thanked the agent for his time and were laughing about it after we left. It stopped being a laughing matter when I got a dozen roses hand delivered by one of her boyfriend's employees a day later, with a handwritten note with his phone number asking me to call him. I'd met him only once, when he'd taken Laurie and myself to lunch at L'Etoile. I called him, thanked him for the appointment I hadn't wanted, was asked out, and turned him down politely because he was too well-connected (owned TV stations and papers, knew the mayor of NYC and a lot of NY/NJ politicians) to want to piss him off. Laurie broke up with him a bit later.

Unlike animal predators, human predators often use bait.

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My dear proud patriot! CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2025 #1
I want to thank everyone Especially my dear friend Peggy proud patriot Sep 2025 #81
I'm very sorry that happened to you. yardwork Sep 2025 #2
So sorry about what happened to you.nt jfz9580m Sep 2025 #3
You are a survivor and a hero yourself, my dear Bayard Sep 2025 #4
I went to post something similar, so I'll endorse your post. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2025 #16
This message was self-deleted by its author Bayard Sep 2025 #5
Thank you for your courage Proud Patriot JMCKUSICK Sep 2025 #6
From my understanding most abuse is kept a secret. That is part of the abuse. twodogsbarking Sep 2025 #7
That took courage some_of_us_are_sane Sep 2025 #8
Thank you for sharing this. colorado_ufo Sep 2025 #9
How brave you are telling Cha Sep 2025 #10
It also took strength to hide it for years leftstreet Sep 2025 #11
You are absolutely correct. niyad Sep 2025 #19
An important point. yellow dahlia Sep 2025 #36
I am proud of YOU, dear proud patriot! MLAA Sep 2025 #12
I'm sending huge hugs to you now and your poor 19 year old self! FirstLight Sep 2025 #13
I had something similar happen. Demobrat Sep 2025 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author niyad Sep 2025 #17
FWIW, "I hope you fought back" isn't always helpful to hear, whether they did or not. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #26
I do understand that. Whatever one does, or does not do, to save themselves niyad Sep 2025 #60
yeah that's a much more supportive sentiment WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #62
I see you proud patriot Sep 2025 #35
Thank you. Demobrat Sep 2025 #64
hugggggggs. I am in awe of your courage, your fortitude, your perseverance. niyad Sep 2025 #15
I was approached at a gas station at the same age as you Coventina Sep 2025 #18
Thank you for being brave enough to share this. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #20
Oh boy...my heart goes out to you. sagetea Sep 2025 #21
Oh my God. I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am in awe that you Scrivener7 Sep 2025 #22
Now you are a HERO too. SalviaBlue Sep 2025 #23
Amen, brave one. Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #24
(((((HUGS))))) UpInArms Sep 2025 #25
I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein Sep 2025 #27
You are very brave. bamagal62 Sep 2025 #28
At about 17 or 18 I bolted from what I thought was a 'job interview...' joanbarnes Sep 2025 #29
Back when many of us were young, we expected college professors & bosses to be gross womanofthehills Sep 2025 #40
I have been lucky in my mentors/teachers jfz9580m Sep 2025 #63
I'm sorry. mzmolly Sep 2025 #30
Indeed. soldierant Sep 2025 #66
Ouch. BComplex Sep 2025 #69
PTSD trigger chia Sep 2025 #72
Apologies. soldierant Sep 2025 #82
It's okay. It just hit hard, seeing in print the time I kept saying those things, over and over, to no effect. chia Sep 2025 #83
Isn't funny that we're ashamed to tell our stories? cate94 Sep 2025 #31
The feedback has been overwhelming proud patriot Sep 2025 #32
I'm pretty sure it wasn't easy, but I think/hope it will lighten the burden of your terrible experience over time. electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #48
Sorrow shared is halved IbogaProject Sep 2025 #65
Thank you. ananda Sep 2025 #33
I'm sorry that happened to you Bettie Sep 2025 #34
At least you stopped yourself from going back. kerry-is-my-prez Sep 2025 #37
wow i went to DVC in the 70's and can't image the college kimbutgar Sep 2025 #38
I think that's why I thought it was real proud patriot Sep 2025 #49
I'm so sorry. So many in the modeling and film industries are predators, as are their friends and associates. I once highplainsdem Sep 2025 #39
I admire your courage so much! summer_in_TX Sep 2025 #41
You are no where near alone. If we all stood up and screamed together 1WorldHope Sep 2025 #42
"We've been hunted MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #51
I'm really sorry you went through that. róisín_dubh Sep 2025 #43
We blame ourselves KT2000 Sep 2025 #44
I was attacked twice - once by a date and then from a "friend." kerry-is-my-prez Sep 2025 #45
So sorry that happened to you. Please forgive yourself 58Sunliner Sep 2025 #46
May you find peace in this revelation. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2025 #47
How hideous for you to be subjected to a predator! And now Brave for telling your story. Hugs to you, a all the women .. electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #50
Horrific. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2025 #52
Good on you! canetoad Sep 2025 #53
You are not alone MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #54
I'm so sorry. chia Sep 2025 #74
Thank you. MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #84
Brava! Wild blueberry Sep 2025 #55
My wife is an incest survivor 70sEraVet Sep 2025 #56
Thank you, thank you, thank you. JohnnyLib2 Sep 2025 #57
Hugs malaise Sep 2025 #58
Bless you for speaking the truth. Trueblue Texan Sep 2025 #59
What happened was in NO WAY your fault, and you need to stop beating yourself up over it FakeNoose Sep 2025 #61
#metoo William Gustafson Sep 2025 #67
Go and tell your 19 YO self IzzaNuDay Sep 2025 #68
Proud Patriot, I'm so sorry this happened to you. BComplex Sep 2025 #70
the Epstein survivors ABSOLUTELY ARE HEROS!!! bluboid Sep 2025 #71
You are amazing. Wishing you peace and healing now ❤️ chia Sep 2025 #73
I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for trusting us to hear your truth today. HeartsCanHope Sep 2025 #75
I had something kind of similar happen Jilly_in_VA Sep 2025 #76
May a bit of truth offer a bit of freedom to heal a bit. Festivito Sep 2025 #77
I could have been one too. Our fear and shame saved us. Our courage healed us. Clouds Passing Sep 2025 #78
Very proud of your courage!! no_hypocrisy Sep 2025 #79
HUGS MuseRider Sep 2025 #80
Respect. H2O Man Sep 2025 #85
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