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kerry-is-my-prez

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45. I was attacked twice - once by a date and then from a "friend."
Thu Sep 4, 2025, 05:06 PM
Sep 4

I was molested as a child and was beaten badly by my mother and was an angry kid (and at times an angry adult if I get messed with). My brother used to beat up on me and we used to fight - (probably good training). As a result, I have a secret horrible temper that comes out if I’m getting messed with or see someone else get messed with. It has saved my life several times though. I was a thin blond who appears to be very easy-going so I look like a good mark, I believe, because I’ve had a lot of dangerous things happen to me. I kicked a date until he was cowering in the corner of his car. I also shoved a guy onto a bed and told him to leave in my dorm room. One night there was a man who broke into my house and was standing in my bedroom and I told him to get “the hell out” which he did. My friend got threatened by a guy with a knife and I grabbed it out of his hand and handed it to another guy/bystander. When I lived in Chicago, I’ve also yelled and screamed at a few people on the street who were stalking me including a guy who snatched my purse. In college, a woman was raped in the apartment building next door and I heard someone outside my window in the middle of the night and I got so angry that I went outside with a golf club and screamed “come over here, you rapist asshole!” My roommates started to think I was a little crazy and said they would move out if I got a gun. As a result of this, I will never get a gun because I would use it, I believe. I sometimes scare myself. I continue to be angry about the election and Trump so I will stay away from certain situations.

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My dear proud patriot! CaliforniaPeggy Sep 4 #1
I want to thank everyone Especially my dear friend Peggy proud patriot Sep 5 #81
I'm very sorry that happened to you. yardwork Sep 4 #2
So sorry about what happened to you.nt jfz9580m Sep 4 #3
You are a survivor and a hero yourself, my dear Bayard Sep 4 #4
I went to post something similar, so I'll endorse your post. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 4 #16
This message was self-deleted by its author Bayard Sep 4 #5
Thank you for your courage Proud Patriot JMCKUSICK Sep 4 #6
From my understanding most abuse is kept a secret. That is part of the abuse. twodogsbarking Sep 4 #7
That took courage some_of_us_are_sane Sep 4 #8
Thank you for sharing this. colorado_ufo Sep 4 #9
How brave you are telling Cha Sep 4 #10
It also took strength to hide it for years leftstreet Sep 4 #11
You are absolutely correct. niyad Sep 4 #19
An important point. yellow dahlia Sep 4 #36
I am proud of YOU, dear proud patriot! MLAA Sep 4 #12
I'm sending huge hugs to you now and your poor 19 year old self! FirstLight Sep 4 #13
I had something similar happen. Demobrat Sep 4 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author niyad Sep 4 #17
FWIW, "I hope you fought back" isn't always helpful to hear, whether they did or not. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 4 #26
I do understand that. Whatever one does, or does not do, to save themselves niyad Sep 4 #60
yeah that's a much more supportive sentiment WhiskeyGrinder Sep 4 #62
I see you proud patriot Sep 4 #35
Thank you. Demobrat Sep 4 #64
hugggggggs. I am in awe of your courage, your fortitude, your perseverance. niyad Sep 4 #15
I was approached at a gas station at the same age as you Coventina Sep 4 #18
Thank you for being brave enough to share this. hamsterjill Sep 4 #20
Oh boy...my heart goes out to you. sagetea Sep 4 #21
Oh my God. I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am in awe that you Scrivener7 Sep 4 #22
Now you are a HERO too. SalviaBlue Sep 4 #23
Amen, brave one. Joinfortmill Sep 4 #24
(((((HUGS))))) UpInArms Sep 4 #25
I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein Sep 4 #27
You are very brave. bamagal62 Sep 4 #28
At about 17 or 18 I bolted from what I thought was a 'job interview...' joanbarnes Sep 4 #29
Back when many of us were young, we expected college professors & bosses to be gross womanofthehills Sep 4 #40
I have been lucky in my mentors/teachers jfz9580m Sep 4 #63
I'm sorry. mzmolly Sep 4 #30
Indeed. soldierant Sep 4 #66
Ouch. BComplex Sep 4 #69
PTSD trigger chia Sep 5 #72
Apologies. soldierant Sep 5 #82
It's okay. It just hit hard, seeing in print the time I kept saying those things, over and over, to no effect. chia Sep 5 #83
Isn't funny that we're ashamed to tell our stories? cate94 Sep 4 #31
The feedback has been overwhelming proud patriot Sep 4 #32
I'm pretty sure it wasn't easy, but I think/hope it will lighten the burden of your terrible experience over time. electric_blue68 Sep 4 #48
Sorrow shared is halved IbogaProject Sep 4 #65
Thank you. ananda Sep 4 #33
I'm sorry that happened to you Bettie Sep 4 #34
At least you stopped yourself from going back. kerry-is-my-prez Sep 4 #37
wow i went to DVC in the 70's and can't image the college kimbutgar Sep 4 #38
I think that's why I thought it was real proud patriot Sep 4 #49
I'm so sorry. So many in the modeling and film industries are predators, as are their friends and associates. I once highplainsdem Sep 4 #39
I admire your courage so much! summer_in_TX Sep 4 #41
You are no where near alone. If we all stood up and screamed together 1WorldHope Sep 4 #42
"We've been hunted MorbidButterflyTat Sep 4 #51
I'm really sorry you went through that. róisín_dubh Sep 4 #43
We blame ourselves KT2000 Sep 4 #44
I was attacked twice - once by a date and then from a "friend." kerry-is-my-prez Sep 4 #45
So sorry that happened to you. Please forgive yourself 58Sunliner Sep 4 #46
May you find peace in this revelation. OldBaldy1701E Sep 4 #47
How hideous for you to be subjected to a predator! And now Brave for telling your story. Hugs to you, a all the women .. electric_blue68 Sep 4 #50
Horrific. greatauntoftriplets Sep 4 #52
Good on you! canetoad Sep 4 #53
You are not alone MorbidButterflyTat Sep 4 #54
I'm so sorry. chia Sep 5 #74
Thank you. MorbidButterflyTat Sep 5 #84
Brava! Wild blueberry Sep 4 #55
My wife is an incest survivor 70sEraVet Sep 4 #56
Thank you, thank you, thank you. JohnnyLib2 Sep 4 #57
Hugs malaise Sep 4 #58
Bless you for speaking the truth. Trueblue Texan Sep 4 #59
What happened was in NO WAY your fault, and you need to stop beating yourself up over it FakeNoose Sep 4 #61
#metoo William Gustafson Sep 4 #67
Go and tell your 19 YO self IzzaNuDay Sep 4 #68
Proud Patriot, I'm so sorry this happened to you. BComplex Sep 4 #70
the Epstein survivors ABSOLUTELY ARE HEROS!!! bluboid Sep 4 #71
You are amazing. Wishing you peace and healing now ❤️ chia Sep 5 #73
I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for trusting us to hear your truth today. HeartsCanHope Sep 5 #75
I had something kind of similar happen Jilly_in_VA Sep 5 #76
May a bit of truth offer a bit of freedom to heal a bit. Festivito Sep 5 #77
I could have been one too. Our fear and shame saved us. Our courage healed us. Clouds Passing Sep 5 #78
Very proud of your courage!! no_hypocrisy Sep 5 #79
HUGS MuseRider Sep 5 #80
Respect. H2O Man Sep 5 #85
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