May I please have the attention of all my fellow males

[LittleBlue]

36. No.

My first question reading the situation was whether the woman was being abducted. "Is she hysterical?" didn't enter my mind, it was whether the man knew the woman and the circumstances.

Without any information, it is impossible to make a determination. The smart thing to do (what I would have done) is walk up and ask "What's going on here?" If it's obvious that the guy is trying to abduct her, that's one thing, if it's obvious she's been in a fight and he's separating her, that's another.

I once had to restrain a woman at a dance club who had opened the passenger side door of my cousin's car and started punching her in the face WHILE SHE WAS TRYING TO DRIVE AWAY. They were friends who had a bad falling out that night fueled by alcohol consumption. I had to grab her by the neck and waist and physically pull her out of the car, she was heavyset and far stronger than my 115lb cousin. She screamed at me "let go, you **** so and so" and started trying to kick me with heels. If you had only seen me grabbing her by the neck and waist, and her screaming to be let go, you might assume I was trying to sexually assault her, but that wasn't the case. No one challenged me for restraining her because they knew the context, they were calling the cops- ON HER.

Likewise if there is a man yelling with a cop (male or female) restraining them, it wouldn't be sexist if people assumed the restraining person was in the right and the screaming man had lost his shit. You may receive an identical assumption if a man is restraining another yelling man. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with sexism.