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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]No Vested Interest
(5,156 posts)from your family.
I my mind, it's always good and wise to leave the slightest opening, if only to your mother.
Obviously, she (and they) are ignorant of your real needs and likely would continue to hurt you if given a chance.
However, for your own sake, keep in touch with your mother - on her birthday a card, just wishing her well and letting her know you are getting along. - Nothing wordy, not even a return address if you feel that's best. But that small gesture will help diminish the hole you have in your heart re your family.
I have seen in my extended family the hurt and harm that can not be undone completely because of all the time gone by and times unshared. Thankfully, healing has been done, but only after the death of the instigator.
Please continue to keep in touch via DU. There is much kindness and empathy here, and there are those that can suggest means. even though small to bring you to the fuller life you deserve. (And you do deserve that, I hope you realize.)