I got it from two different husbands. Different styles but both verbally and emotionally abusive.
The first one has since turned his life around and become a good person. I saw him for the first time in 25 years at the memorial service for his brother. When I talked to him, I felt two invisible hands open my ribcage and a whole lot of pain flew out of my heart chakra. It was an extraordinary experience. I think it really eased my mind a lot to know that he had changed radically. He's probably the only person I've ever met that has changed radically and for the better.
The second one is a narcissist who thinks he knows everything and I hold out no hope for him.
When I was almost 40 I met my soulmate at a Unitarian Church. I wasn't sure there was such a thing, but I found him and he found me.
He'd been verbally abused and the second wife had tried to hit him. Men get abused too and some people don't want to believe that.
And we value each other!! Such a simple concept. 
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