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In reply to the discussion: Okay, no spanking. I get that but what's this dad suppose to do? [View all]SoCalDem
(103,856 posts)I would listen to my sons rant & rave about whatever their issue was.. I would listen quietly, and when they finally ran out of mean things to say, I would wait for the lull and then say those words?
They wanted me to engage in their drama, but I always refused, and remained calm.. When they were "done" I would ask them to elaborate on the issues one at a time, and address each one with MY opinion on them, and asked them to reply.(but in a calm manner)..
Usually by the second or third one, they would start to laugh a bit and apologize..
My friend would always say. How do you resist screaming back at them?
Two screaming people never solve anything..
I would always remind the boys that someday they will have their last conversation with me, and they can never know which one it will be.. Will it be the one where they told me they hated me?