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intheflow

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20. Same thing I've experienced.

Fri May 18, 2012, 09:04 PM

May 2012

I was the the 1980 version of GothGirl in my lily-white high school. Became fb friends a few years ago with three of... if not my arch-nemeses, at least my mortal opposites: The Cheerleaders. Turns out all grew up to be good liberals despite our Republican upbringings, and two I would consider actual friends now. (One is still outta her mind. But harmless.) Discovered one of those uber-bubbly girls was actually going through a family molestation nightmare. The other was cheerleading through her parents' ugly and violent divorce. You simply have no idea what's happening in most people's lives, especially people outside your circle in high school.

OTOH, I friended my first boyfriend against my better judgement. Had to unfriend the contentious RW troll soon after.

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after woman posts poem about how she was bullied, class of 1987 contacts her to apologize [View all] Liberal_in_LA May 2012 OP

Great story! jorno67 May 2012 #1

Wow, what a nice story. tridim May 2012 #2

Wish mine was the same, but it wasn't Joe Bacon May 2012 #34

When you hurt a person for amusement yellerpup May 2012 #3

It's happened to me, too... richmwill May 2012 #4

interesting! So you didn't even have to tell him that he mistreated you. he knew it! great story Liberal_in_LA May 2012 #5

memory issues kardonb May 2012 #31

I've gone through that process a few times myself in the last few years Posteritatis May 2012 #12

what a great story! It gives me hope that something is better out there. CTyankee May 2012 #17

Most kids eventually grow up into adults slackmaster May 2012 #6

Which is why adults should be guiding kids through this stuff Iris May 2012 #23

The bullies I have known all had parents that were, let's say flawed in some way slackmaster May 2012 #24

I didn't really think of that. Iris May 2012 #30

See Mitt, what compassionate adults do? It's not too late for you. Scuba May 2012 #7

K&R BrendaBrick May 2012 #8

that poem is so heartbreaking renate May 2012 #9

PFFFFFT. My assholes would likely say "Eat a dick and move on, it was 25 years ago". HughBeaumont May 2012 #10

It's funny, but I have connected via FaceBook with some of those kids I went to school with. It's GreenPartyVoter May 2012 #13

Same thing I've experienced. intheflow May 2012 #20

Heh. I was a cheerleader, but I was the least popular one ever. LOL You are so right, though. We GreenPartyVoter May 2012 #45

And as predicted, the comments on that story literally make me give up hope for humanity. HughBeaumont May 2012 #14

And these pieces of sewage have the colossal audacity hifiguy May 2012 #18

Disgusting. My niece will carry the scars from her years of school bullying forever riderinthestorm May 2012 #19

Comments like that make "going postal" seem rational. TahitiNut May 2012 #21

"I think people should just be more accepting of bullying" Rob H. May 2012 #22

Isn't it amazing that the former (and current) bullies Curmudgeoness May 2012 #27

This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl May 2012 #29

This is what "Guidance Counselors" told me! Joe Bacon May 2012 #35

My God. Bullying is not a 'rite of passage'. It's verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. Zoeisright May 2012 #37

"It was good to see kids get picked on"???????????? GOOD??????? calimary May 2012 #42

The level of forgiveness that woman has is amazing obamanut2012 May 2012 #11

I'm glad the ones that bullied her have grown up enough to have the empathy and decency Raine May 2012 #15

that's awesome... we need more stories like this fascisthunter May 2012 #16

Wow. She's a great person. I never want to Dash87 May 2012 #25

"You can't fix yesterday, so lets fix today." jerseyjack May 2012 #26

I doubt I could be that forgiving. CrispyQ May 2012 #28

Bullying hurts those who bully icarusxat May 2012 #32

I agree. Allowing it to continue not only hurts the victim but reinforces the actions of the bully. rhett o rick May 2012 #44

K&R Odin2005 May 2012 #33

Here's something my high school teacher husband is trying to impress on the girl bullies at his Zoeisright May 2012 #36

Excellent Advice From Him HangOnKids May 2012 #40

Wow! Thatmade me cry...I still have tears in my eye. How sad! Auntie Bush May 2012 #38

He not only claimed he couldn't remember, but he chuckled about it. calimary May 2012 #43

I too was bullied on a daily basis silentwarrior May 2012 #39

I have forgiven my bullies but I never forgot and I have no desire to go back to any reunions. It southernyankeebelle May 2012 #41