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12. Yea neither of these work.
Sat Dec 16, 2017, 08:03 PM
Dec 2017

the first one the guy is disturbed by it because he is homophobic and the second one says it is because it is his first time.

IMHO Men that are afraid to compliment other men are afraid of how they will be perceived when they do it...Is he gay?

And men who are afraid because someone compliments them is again a case of homophobia. Would the second story work the same if it was a woman complimenting a man?

When we can't even genuinely compliment people we are losing something in our society in my opinion. Of course there is a wide variance between Nice hat and woot sexy legs babe!

None of this stuff fits into nice little black and white packages and that is why Zero tolerance does not work.

Quite Brilliant: [View all] kpete Dec 2017 OP
Wow! treestar Dec 2017 #1
Wait a minute! PJMcK Dec 2017 #2
Yes. n/t kag Dec 2017 #10
Wonderful! MineralMan Dec 2017 #3
A perfect nutshell, as in wrapped up in a. marble falls Dec 2017 #4
Then tell him to "smile" at the end of it. nt TeamPooka Dec 2017 #5
Exactly. narnian60 Dec 2017 #22
I get the gist of this mountain grammy Dec 2017 #6
A male friend of mine got written up for telling a co-worker she looked good since she Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #11
I think its a sad world when mountain grammy Dec 2017 #13
Times have changed grammy. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #14
Yeah, I know mountain grammy Dec 2017 #17
Yes same here. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #18
True that.. mountain grammy Dec 2017 #19
We can say something nice to someone. Mariana Dec 2017 #15
"Michelle Wolf - Nice Lady" on HBO is a must-see for feminists of all genders. SleeplessinSoCal Dec 2017 #7
Well, when the day comes when I cant tell someone that they Ferrets are Cool Dec 2017 #8
Say it, by all means. Mariana Dec 2017 #16
Exactly, just don't say it to random women and or co-workers. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #20
Here's another, even more pointed RandomAccess Dec 2017 #9
Yea neither of these work. Egnever Dec 2017 #12
Wow, had never thought of it that way. Spot on. Irish_Dem Dec 2017 #21
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