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7. my mom inlaw has been in assisted living for almost a year now

Reply to narnian60 (Original post)

Sun Apr 8, 2018, 05:29 PM

Apr 2018

the biggest problem for her is she only gets to keep 40 bucks a month of her money

so for us organizing her kids and grandkids to take turns supplementing that very low budget has helped, it gives her more independence . Many of the activities are free but many require a small payment and she still has to pay for toiletries and clothing.

overall she loves it

hope it goes well for you and your folks

ps the obvious thing is....keep visiting,calling and taking them out for fav activities

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Finally moving Mom & step-dad to assisted living facility [View all] narnian60 Apr 2018 OP

Good luck. cilla4progress Apr 2018 #1

Just visit a lot and let them know you won't forget them FakeNoose Apr 2018 #2

Try posting in the Elder-Caregivers group..lots of good info there. likesmountains 52 Apr 2018 #3

Thank you. narnian60 Apr 2018 #8

Can they take some personal items with them? Frustratedlady Apr 2018 #4

We kept my mom and dad at their apartment long after my mom applegrove Apr 2018 #5

Good luck. Ohiogal Apr 2018 #6

It's hard, but I try not to personalize what she says. narnian60 Apr 2018 #10

my mom inlaw has been in assisted living for almost a year now questionseverything Apr 2018 #7

"she has no choice" elocs Apr 2018 #9

I guess I needed to expand on the problem. narnian60 Apr 2018 #12

From my experience, it depends on the place Rhiannon12866 Apr 2018 #15

Took her today to see the place and narnian60 Apr 2018 #16

Oh, that's great news! Rhiannon12866 Apr 2018 #17

My parents and mother-in-law liked for me and other family to go to lunch with them in facility wishstar Apr 2018 #11

give your mum a journal, and ask her to detail every complaint she and your step-dad has Skittles Apr 2018 #13

My grandma was a Wild West bag lady. hunter Apr 2018 #14