My grandmother moved to a "retirement community" at 84, her choice. She had her own apartment for years, but there were graduated levels of care. Someone checked in every morning and night and those who needed medications supervised (she did), that was available, plus a certain number of meals were required in the dining hall so people didn't isolate. There were also lots of organized "activities" and she participated in most of them, said she needed to support them, and it helped her make friends.
When she needed more care, that was available, plus they even had "pets" on both of the halls she lived on. She was even able to "rent" a bird, someone came in to clean the cage, etc., every day. 
Her brother and his wife moved into another care facility together, she needed the medical care so he went, too - and eventually he needed the additional care as well. And when that happened, their (nurse) daughter visited a lot to make sure they were getting the care they needed and she told me that it was really necessary, that anyone under care needs an advocate.
I'm sorry that you're having to go through this, it's much easier if it's their choice. 
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