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Cary

(11,746 posts)
30. So....
Sat May 26, 2018, 11:29 AM
May 2018

You have a choice. You do have the power to walk away.

You don't have to walk away but you need to know that you have that power. I tell my clients that I don't have their answer.but I can tell them what I would do if it were me and what I would do is walk away.

Here is what happens:

1) they give me a large retainer;

2) I go through that retainer like a hot knife through butter because a lawyer has to be aggressive on these cases;

3) client runs out of money making me either have to quit or effectively give them an interest freeoan;

4) I am a sucker so I don't withdraw, but that isn't good because I don't have resources to do things right when I am not being paid;

5) since the client isn't paying they don't accept settlements and get mad at me for telling them to accept.

I actually had one fire me after I insisted that she needed to take a.$200,000 settlement. I dont know how much she owed me. A few years later she settled for $15,000. I have no idea what she paid.her second attorney. I called her to express sympathy and she got abusive with me claiming I didn't tell her that the trustee had access to trust funds to fight her claim. Mind you she fired me for pushing her to settle and she stiffed me out of like $20,000.

So maybe that gives you some perspective.

any chance dementia might be setting in? dhol82 May 2018 #1
He was always this way. I think he was always a narcissist cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #12
I would divorce myself from the situation and leave it to the "bad ass" attorney., AJT May 2018 #2
Best friends growing up, 1st in his law school class, trust him with my life. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #3
Good. We're with you. elleng May 2018 #4
Thank you, I feel so on edge and alone. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #5
I'm sure you do feel alone, elleng May 2018 #6
Then trust him to do what is best and allow for you to keep an emotionally safe distance. AJT May 2018 #7
Yes, he's a pro cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #8
More than that, he's a trusted friend. AJT May 2018 #9
Agreeing with AJT. DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THIS DECISION. no_hypocrisy May 2018 #10
I had gotten there with therapy but his recent cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #13
Dear cpamomfromtexas, no_hypocrisy May 2018 #16
Thank you! cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #17
Its an amazing website. I ran across it doing my homework. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #20
When the elderly parents go around the bend, it's hard to believe how deeply it affects enough May 2018 #11
Yes and thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #14
Let your badass attorney handle it and keep as much distance as you can. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2018 #15
You are reliving your childhood trauma. WhiteTara May 2018 #18
Working hard to make it stop. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #19
I truly understand. My parents are both dead WhiteTara May 2018 #21
Glad you could reconcile. I am not holding my breath cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #22
I came out angry too WhiteTara May 2018 #25
I don't have a solution to your heartbreaking dilemma, but I can recommend ACOA Rhiannon12866 May 2018 #23
Thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #29
Get to an elder-care advocate and get an attorney. raven mad May 2018 #24
Thank you. I will look into that. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #27
I'm sorry Cary May 2018 #26
I tried to do just that two years ago but his actions cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #28
So.... Cary May 2018 #30
Here is an OP from today that answers this quesion WhiteTara May 2018 #31
Very informative. Thank you. I am not alone. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #34
Both hubs and I had to "divorce" our parents. Duppers May 2018 #32
Nice to know I am not the only one. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #35
There is a basic truth about making hard decisions lunatica May 2018 #33
Excellent advice. Thank you. cpamomfromtexas May 2018 #36
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