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In reply to the discussion: To those of you who have lost a mother, I wish you a peaceful Mother's Day [View all]Rhiannon12866
(203,023 posts)I lost my mother six months ago and I had no idea this would hit me so hard. My mother wasn't sick, she fell down the stairs in the dark when the lights went out during Hurricane Irene and broke her neck. The only other injury was a cut on her knee.
She was in ICU at the best medical center in the area and I went to see her every day. Once she came around and the bruises faded, I had so much hope, but she couldn't breathe on her own. My brother was medical proxy and he was convinced to remove the ventilator by the long-time family GP and I still feel guilty that I didn't fight harder. We were told that she'd require care in another state and that her life would be hell. And she had a Living Will.
I've done everything that's been expected of me, planned everything and I'm the executor. I've tried to make her (and my late father) proud of me, but it still hits me in the solar plexus everytime I think of it. I should have thought of something like this thread, myself, but I've been wallowing in my own sadness today. Thank you so much for thinking of this and giving me a chance to say what's in my heart.
Your mother is beautiful and she must have been very special to have raised such a thoughtful and caring person like you.
This is the pic that my brother and I chose for the newspaper. It's recent.