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Rhiannon12866

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14. Thank you for this. I have been having a horrible day.
Sun May 13, 2012, 06:41 PM
May 2012

I lost my mother six months ago and I had no idea this would hit me so hard. My mother wasn't sick, she fell down the stairs in the dark when the lights went out during Hurricane Irene and broke her neck. The only other injury was a cut on her knee.

She was in ICU at the best medical center in the area and I went to see her every day. Once she came around and the bruises faded, I had so much hope, but she couldn't breathe on her own. My brother was medical proxy and he was convinced to remove the ventilator by the long-time family GP and I still feel guilty that I didn't fight harder. We were told that she'd require care in another state and that her life would be hell. And she had a Living Will.

I've done everything that's been expected of me, planned everything and I'm the executor. I've tried to make her (and my late father) proud of me, but it still hits me in the solar plexus everytime I think of it. I should have thought of something like this thread, myself, but I've been wallowing in my own sadness today. Thank you so much for thinking of this and giving me a chance to say what's in my heart.

Your mother is beautiful and she must have been very special to have raised such a thoughtful and caring person like you.

This is the pic that my brother and I chose for the newspaper. It's recent.



Strange about that, isn't it? nolabear May 2012 #1
peace to you to, graywarrior dana_b May 2012 #2
This is our Third without my mother in law. YellowRubberDuckie May 2012 #3
She is a beauty. I lost mine in 2010 LaurenG May 2012 #4
Lost mine in 2004. The Velveteen Ocelot May 2012 #5
Lost mine in '96, about six months after my daughter was born. bluesbassman May 2012 #6
I lost my mother ten years ago. sarge43 May 2012 #7
Lost mine less than a month ago, Loving Wife lost hers 3 years ago. oneshooter May 2012 #8
Thank you graywarrior. femmocrat May 2012 #9
My first mother's day without her YankeyMCC May 2012 #10
Thank-you for this post. robinlynne May 2012 #11
Thank you. Lydia Leftcoast May 2012 #12
Thanks tama May 2012 #13
Thank you for this. I have been having a horrible day. Rhiannon12866 May 2012 #14
. graywarrior May 2012 #15
Thank you... Rhiannon12866 May 2012 #21
.... bigwillq May 2012 #22
Awwww... Thank you so much. Rhiannon12866 May 2012 #25
Thank You. deathrind May 2012 #16
I lost mine in 2006. proud2BlibKansan May 2012 #17
Mine is still here, after burying two sons, and two husbands. Xipe Totec May 2012 #18
I lost my beautiful mother on June 3rd, 2007... Tom_Foolery May 2012 #19
Thank you... Dystopian May 2012 #20
Thank You!!!! Swede Atlanta May 2012 #23
She was beautiful! As are you. I lost mine in 1990, so thank you kindly. babylonsister May 2012 #24
Thanks, graywarrior. Curmudgeoness May 2012 #26
This is an especially difficult Mother's day graywarrior May 2012 #27
I am sorry for your pain. I understand. Curmudgeoness May 2012 #29
Lost my mom in '99 jimlup May 2012 #28
My mom has been gone since 1989. mysuzuki2 May 2012 #30
I lost my Mom on 2/20/2001 av8rdave May 2012 #31
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