I gave my sister-in-law advice on her love life.

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5. you make an important point

I am much older now but this is where I think women go wrong before they wise up. Evolution tells us to go for the alpha type males because we would be more likely to survive and be safe. We mistake the "bad boys" for the desirable ones but what they are really are egotistical, thoughtless, and users of women. We interpret their egotism as confidence and strength. That may have worked out eons ago but not for the present.

Because the nice guys do not express egotism, they may not be good at survival and safety. That is not true in the modern world. It is no longer necessary to be a brute and actually quite the opposite. Intelligence, sensitivity, and loyalty are much more valuable for survival now.

Men have their own primitive drives too.

I believe for some, the attractions between men and women are often driven by these primal instincts without us realizing it. After a few burn outs - both men and women get smart.