I gave my sister-in-law advice on her love life.

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11. Well I look over the profiles...

...of guys on these dating websites people use these days. (God I'm glad I'm decades past dating.)

I did so recently. The men I recommended she said were unattractive. The guy she thought she wanted to contact struck me as more of the same.

I'm not sure the right words for how I feel for here approach is " assigning blame to her" but there is a systematic problem.

Her upbringing was problematic to be sure.

I do have tremendous sympathy for what happened to her.

The problem she has is that she lets these awful people tell her what's wrong with her.

I try to explain that what these asses want is their problem, not hers.

Now she's reading one of these horrid formulaic self help books entitled "Why Men Love Bitches."

She asked me to look at it. I was appalled.

She thinks of men like other people think of...i don't know...cows.