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In reply to the discussion: How do you remember your first love? [View all]3catwoman3
(23,812 posts)...when I made the mistake of deciding to go to the same college he chose. We started dating about the middle of our junior year of high school. Once away from home at that college, he changed. It took me too long to recognize it. Anything I wanted to do that did not involve him was a threat to him - even something as benign as having breakfast with my suitemates. We were in all the same classes. I joined a small dance troupe on campus and he pitched a fit when he found out we were going to perform wearing leotards - "I don't want anyone gazing at your form."
The brother of a high school classmate was killed in car accident. I was brokenhearted for her. He scolded me for crying about this - "You should be thinking about ME."
I no longer recall my precise breaking point, but it would have been wanting to do something in which he was not included. "It seems like you don't want to be with me."
By then, he was right. That was sophomore year of college. I transferred to a different school.
He has never come to any class reunions, thank goodness. I don't wish him ill, but I sure as hell never want to see him again.