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3catwoman3

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42. As someone who became a controlling, possessive asshole...
Sun Jun 28, 2020, 01:42 AM
Jun 2020

...when I made the mistake of deciding to go to the same college he chose. We started dating about the middle of our junior year of high school. Once away from home at that college, he changed. It took me too long to recognize it. Anything I wanted to do that did not involve him was a threat to him - even something as benign as having breakfast with my suitemates. We were in all the same classes. I joined a small dance troupe on campus and he pitched a fit when he found out we were going to perform wearing leotards - "I don't want anyone gazing at your form."

The brother of a high school classmate was killed in car accident. I was brokenhearted for her. He scolded me for crying about this - "You should be thinking about ME."

I no longer recall my precise breaking point, but it would have been wanting to do something in which he was not included. "It seems like you don't want to be with me."

By then, he was right. That was sophomore year of college. I transferred to a different school.

He has never come to any class reunions, thank goodness. I don't wish him ill, but I sure as hell never want to see him again.

I think of him often Skittles Jun 2020 #1
I know its strange Ahpook Jun 2020 #10
on the internet I see he is out west Skittles Jun 2020 #13
I jumped out of her moving car in Berkeley. hunter Jun 2020 #2
Every now and then I check the obit pages to see if the duplicitous bastard is dead yet. The Velveteen Ocelot Jun 2020 #3
Me too. beveeheart Jun 2020 #15
My abuser died... it's a great feeling. NurseJackie Jun 2020 #32
Mine is alive and well in The Villages in Florida. beveeheart Jun 2020 #37
Absolutely not. You deserve closure and peace. NurseJackie Jun 2020 #38
See my post 42. 3catwoman3 Jun 2020 #43
I just look over at her, sitting on the couch, 43 years later. yonder Jun 2020 #4
Very happy for you :) Ahpook Jun 2020 #5
You are very lucky sir, and must give you IQ points for keeping her Under The Radar Jun 2020 #8
You are lucky. hunter Jun 2020 #9
Same here sorta. Then you learn the bruising helps yonder Jun 2020 #17
Sounds just like my story ironflange Jun 2020 #40
He's dead. Died just before his 50th birthday. Solly Mack Jun 2020 #6
50 years later and friends were still waiting for the reconnection? Under The Radar Jun 2020 #21
Everyone felt that way at the time and for a few years Solly Mack Jun 2020 #27
I do... Zoonart Jun 2020 #7
Very cool Ahpook Jun 2020 #11
Glad to see this post... Under The Radar Jun 2020 #12
No, it's cool Ahpook Jun 2020 #14
Music from that era is a direct hit to the heart Under The Radar Jun 2020 #18
the close calls would likely all have been disasters. My real true love and I are in our 40th NRaleighLiberal Jun 2020 #16
Great to hear Ahpook Jun 2020 #19
Congratulations yourself. yonder Jun 2020 #20
Yes. I dodged that bullet Generic Brad Jun 2020 #22
I married my first love at 19 BigMin28 Jun 2020 #23
BigMin28.....I'm so sorry Upthevibe Jun 2020 #45
Thank you BigMin28 Jun 2020 #46
Without sounding overly religious, I have lived to thank God that all my prayers... NNadir Jun 2020 #24
Without question. Aristus Jun 2020 #25
With great affection. OAITW r.2.0 Jun 2020 #26
With a trace of nostalgia, but also with gratitude, like "Pamela Brown" DFW Jun 2020 #28
I remember her fondly PJMcK Jun 2020 #29
We were on competing ski teams. He was the number one racer on the best team and I was smirkymonkey Jun 2020 #30
How do I remember him? wnylib Jun 2020 #31
fondly. n/t malthaussen Jun 2020 #33
We're still friends. She'll always have a place in my heart. CanonRay Jun 2020 #34
It's been 40 years OriginalGeek Jun 2020 #35
Still love her. Always will. (nt) Paladin Jun 2020 #36
My first love has ended in tragedy. catbyte Jun 2020 #39
Fondlingly.... jalan48 Jun 2020 #41
As someone who became a controlling, possessive asshole... 3catwoman3 Jun 2020 #42
Her name was Janet Wolf Frankula Jun 2020 #44
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