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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]MLAA
(17,282 posts)It is so so hard. Physically and emotionally draining. A few tips Ive learned from an 8 week heart heart attack /bi-pass surgery/gastric bleed recovery for my dear husband and now in a12 week recovery for fractured hip. At first I tried to go it alone 24/7. Then I realized I had to have help.
You get physically and emotionally drained and feel like you cant go on. You need food, liquids and sleep. You need to talk to friends and vent. You need to release your emotions by crying if you want. I cried in the shower and felt better for it.
Sleep when they sleep. If they are napping you try and nap.
If there is any way to get/afford caregiver assistance go for it. If you can be relieved of some of the physical duties you are free to just be together. A caregiver can sometimes get your loved one to do what you cannot like try the walker or stretch or wash up Or eat/drink or go outside in a wheelchair or do a bit more for themselves (within their capabilities) than you can get them to do. Its odd but Ive seen it over and over where a third party is listened to and gets better results.
Love to you both 🙂