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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]Dem2theMax
(9,594 posts)All it means is that you are human and you cannot take care of everything 24/7. You need help.
I took care of my mom and dad for seven years. And when my mom's health went downhill, we had hospice to help us. I could not have done it without them.
Please give yourself permission to ask for help. It's the hardest thing to do. I totally understand that. It's one of the hardest lessons for us to learn in life, to ask for help.
If I lived near you, I would be helping you right now. There are other people like me who would help in a heartbeat. All you need to do is say the word.
The person you love is in crisis, you are in crisis. This should be a time where the two of you are both cared for, and where you have time to just love each other and not spend every second stressed out.
Hospice can help.
And don't ever, ever, ever feel like you are failing him or yourself. You are doing the hardest job in the world.
I know. I've been there.
Sending you as much support as I can through these words.