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magical thyme

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16. can't argue with that at all.
Sat Mar 8, 2014, 09:05 PM
Mar 2014

But first they need to identify the issue. If it's depression, there are strategies to deal with it. If it's something else, then they can deal with that.

You could start out by just focusing on that one area, the desk, DebJ Mar 2014 #1
I doubt she'll be swayed by that approach. If she cared about her husband, she wouldn't IrishAyes Mar 2014 #10
I disagree that this is the only reason. DebJ Mar 2014 #20
People have different standards of cleanliness. Do not expect her to be you, or do what you did. uppityperson Mar 2014 #2
You might be different people, but you have equal responsibilities toward one another. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #11
Man up and tell her straight out. bigwillq Mar 2014 #3
How long did your "period of unemployment" last. PassingFair Mar 2014 #4
doesn't sound sexist at all to me. magical thyme Mar 2014 #5
Yes, but getting up off our ass and doing something is very theraputic. I recommend it highly. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #12
can't argue with that at all. magical thyme Mar 2014 #16
Later on I did say something about getting her to a doctor first. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #18
Well you ARE all that and a bag of chips, aren't you? Tsiyu Mar 2014 #41
Don't put words in my mouth. Your description of what I said is totally inaccurate. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #42
Like you or not? Tsiyu Mar 2014 #43
Any decent shrink will tell you IrishAyes Mar 2014 #46
Activity... pipi_k Mar 2014 #51
Your post from the frontlines will have far more effect on others than anything I could ever say. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #53
I'm sorry Dr. Frist Tsiyu Mar 2014 #54
You might want to clarify what you've been saying then kcr Mar 2014 #45
I just did. See #46. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #47
What happened before your period of unemployment? Presumably you were working outside the home, Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #6
I do a LOT of things I don't like doing for the sake of the common good. Not one to enable slacking IrishAyes Mar 2014 #13
Telling RandySF that his merrily Mar 2014 #24
Point taken. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #29
I have been researching some of the homes in California. merrily Mar 2014 #38
It gave us practice in not murdering each other. People had to be supportive and stick together IrishAyes Mar 2014 #57
People do what they have to do or merrily Mar 2014 #58
Yes, there is some modicum of justice in the world. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #60
it's not sexist to discuss fairness. My partner and I do so all the time. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2014 #7
I want to suggest another approach. noamnety Mar 2014 #8
Good idea NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #27
Turn about is fair play, not sexist. She's taking very unfair advantage of you. Maybe she's IrishAyes Mar 2014 #9
Don't see how it's sexist... Wounded Bear Mar 2014 #14
People have differing levels of (let's call it) "acceptable chaos..." ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #15
There is nothing sexist Texasgal Mar 2014 #17
I think starting the conversation with how the mess really bothers you seabeyond Mar 2014 #19
It could be possible pipi_k Mar 2014 #21
Direct approach. Tell 840high Mar 2014 #22
Concentrate on the desk. Do you share it? (m) nessa Mar 2014 #23
I think the person who asked what she was like as a homemaker merrily Mar 2014 #25
Why not?... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #39
Young kids? merrily Mar 2014 #40
You probably shouldn't be afraid to have a good impassioned fight lunatica Mar 2014 #26
This sounds like a ploy... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #31
Share the load? Marthe48 Mar 2014 #28
I'm a little confused... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #30
I think, just a simple typo. It's pretty clear he's talking about a period of UNemployment I think. auntAgonist Mar 2014 #33
I didn't understand the OP either. nt raccoon Mar 2014 #34
Is she having depression/coping issues with being unemployed? LadyHawkAZ Mar 2014 #32
More questions... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #35
Make a chore schedule together. LWolf Mar 2014 #36
Is this her first time being unemployed? NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #37
The OP must be busy cleaning up after his wife? merrily Mar 2014 #44
ya. lol. that. i took in good faith myself. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #50
I had a feeling from the jump. merrily Mar 2014 #56
She's your wife. Iggo Mar 2014 #48
Not sexist at all chrisa Mar 2014 #49
I think the way you phrased it in the OP is pretty much the way you should say it. stevenleser Mar 2014 #52
Incidentally, anyone who thinks there's a shred of privacy or anonymity on the internet IrishAyes Mar 2014 #55
hmmm... to no one in particular. (not!) I found my previous post entirely relevant since IrishAyes Mar 2014 #59
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