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TeeYiYi

(8,028 posts)
30. I'm a little confused...
Sun Mar 9, 2014, 11:54 AM
Mar 2014

(I know,... SURPRISE!)

But seriously, for some reason, I'm unclear about whether you were working or unemployed while being 'Mr. Mom'...

During my period of employment, I was Mr. Mom.
<snip>
Now, it seems to be my turn to be working and hers to be unemployed.
<snip>
I give her all the credit for working while I was unemployed...

TYY
You could start out by just focusing on that one area, the desk, DebJ Mar 2014 #1
I doubt she'll be swayed by that approach. If she cared about her husband, she wouldn't IrishAyes Mar 2014 #10
I disagree that this is the only reason. DebJ Mar 2014 #20
People have different standards of cleanliness. Do not expect her to be you, or do what you did. uppityperson Mar 2014 #2
You might be different people, but you have equal responsibilities toward one another. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #11
Man up and tell her straight out. bigwillq Mar 2014 #3
How long did your "period of unemployment" last. PassingFair Mar 2014 #4
doesn't sound sexist at all to me. magical thyme Mar 2014 #5
Yes, but getting up off our ass and doing something is very theraputic. I recommend it highly. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #12
can't argue with that at all. magical thyme Mar 2014 #16
Later on I did say something about getting her to a doctor first. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #18
Well you ARE all that and a bag of chips, aren't you? Tsiyu Mar 2014 #41
Don't put words in my mouth. Your description of what I said is totally inaccurate. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #42
Like you or not? Tsiyu Mar 2014 #43
Any decent shrink will tell you IrishAyes Mar 2014 #46
Activity... pipi_k Mar 2014 #51
Your post from the frontlines will have far more effect on others than anything I could ever say. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #53
I'm sorry Dr. Frist Tsiyu Mar 2014 #54
You might want to clarify what you've been saying then kcr Mar 2014 #45
I just did. See #46. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #47
What happened before your period of unemployment? Presumably you were working outside the home, Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #6
I do a LOT of things I don't like doing for the sake of the common good. Not one to enable slacking IrishAyes Mar 2014 #13
Telling RandySF that his merrily Mar 2014 #24
Point taken. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #29
I have been researching some of the homes in California. merrily Mar 2014 #38
It gave us practice in not murdering each other. People had to be supportive and stick together IrishAyes Mar 2014 #57
People do what they have to do or merrily Mar 2014 #58
Yes, there is some modicum of justice in the world. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #60
it's not sexist to discuss fairness. My partner and I do so all the time. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2014 #7
I want to suggest another approach. noamnety Mar 2014 #8
Good idea NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #27
Turn about is fair play, not sexist. She's taking very unfair advantage of you. Maybe she's IrishAyes Mar 2014 #9
Don't see how it's sexist... Wounded Bear Mar 2014 #14
People have differing levels of (let's call it) "acceptable chaos..." ScreamingMeemie Mar 2014 #15
There is nothing sexist Texasgal Mar 2014 #17
I think starting the conversation with how the mess really bothers you seabeyond Mar 2014 #19
It could be possible pipi_k Mar 2014 #21
Direct approach. Tell 840high Mar 2014 #22
Concentrate on the desk. Do you share it? (m) nessa Mar 2014 #23
I think the person who asked what she was like as a homemaker merrily Mar 2014 #25
Why not?... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #39
Young kids? merrily Mar 2014 #40
You probably shouldn't be afraid to have a good impassioned fight lunatica Mar 2014 #26
This sounds like a ploy... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #31
Share the load? Marthe48 Mar 2014 #28
I'm a little confused... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #30
I think, just a simple typo. It's pretty clear he's talking about a period of UNemployment I think. auntAgonist Mar 2014 #33
I didn't understand the OP either. nt raccoon Mar 2014 #34
Is she having depression/coping issues with being unemployed? LadyHawkAZ Mar 2014 #32
More questions... TeeYiYi Mar 2014 #35
Make a chore schedule together. LWolf Mar 2014 #36
Is this her first time being unemployed? NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #37
The OP must be busy cleaning up after his wife? merrily Mar 2014 #44
ya. lol. that. i took in good faith myself. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #50
I had a feeling from the jump. merrily Mar 2014 #56
She's your wife. Iggo Mar 2014 #48
Not sexist at all chrisa Mar 2014 #49
I think the way you phrased it in the OP is pretty much the way you should say it. stevenleser Mar 2014 #52
Incidentally, anyone who thinks there's a shred of privacy or anonymity on the internet IrishAyes Mar 2014 #55
hmmm... to no one in particular. (not!) I found my previous post entirely relevant since IrishAyes Mar 2014 #59
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