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14. I feel sorry for anyone who hasn't had to go to Plan B, C, D, WW...

Thu Jul 24, 2014, 11:52 PM

Jul 2014

You learn what you're made of when you have to start again with only your wits.

I wouldn't be where I am now without putting out a lot of fires and rebuilding a lot of disasters. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Great to read of others here who were tough enough to change. Hemingway said, "The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills."

To also quote Drivin N Cryin, I'm definitely "scarred but smarter".

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What makes you decide to make a big life change? [View all] closeupready Jul 2014 OP

Profound deep unhappiness caused me to make profound changes Sanity Claws Jul 2014 #1

Thanks for that. closeupready Jul 2014 #2

This.. sendero Jul 2014 #26

Jeez, I was gonna type this as I read. But you summed up my experience. (nt) Inkfreak Jul 2014 #28

Divorce brought me my changes...never saw it coming. mackerel Jul 2014 #41

So, how did things turn out after the second time? nt raccoon Jul 2014 #3

Spectacularly, initially - economy was gangbusters in the 90's. closeupready Jul 2014 #4

great idea for a thread NJCher Jul 2014 #5

Thanks, that's very interesting to me. closeupready Jul 2014 #7

Boredom and frustration, mostly. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2014 #6

Long story, but I completely changed my life's direction Prisoner_Number_Six Jul 2014 #8

I'm glad to hear that you turned your life around. closeupready Jul 2014 #9

Until I was 24 I never lived in any one place more than 3 years. hobbit709 Jul 2014 #10

So since 1974, you've never felt a desire to uproot yourself? closeupready Jul 2014 #11

Not really after moving that many times as a kid. hobbit709 Jul 2014 #12

your story echoes mine Skittles Jul 2014 #16

Big changes tinymontgomery Jul 2014 #13

I feel sorry for anyone who hasn't had to go to Plan B, C, D, WW... NightWatcher Jul 2014 #14

This is an interesting thought - can you elaborate? closeupready Jul 2014 #15

Plan A: go to school, get good job. NightWatcher Jul 2014 #17

I respect you for your integrity. Way to go. closeupready Jul 2014 #19

A kick in the pants. Every time. CTyankee Jul 2014 #18

With the realization that nearly everything or something significant in your life makes it no_hypocrisy Jul 2014 #20

I wish I could make a big change PasadenaTrudy Jul 2014 #21

You'll do it - if not, there will be good reasons why not. closeupready Jul 2014 #33

A tall beautiful woman told me "come live with me on the banks of the Rhein River" DFW Jul 2014 #22

Belief in the hope that things could be better. mnhtnbb Jul 2014 #23

I enjoyed reading this - thanks for sharing. closeupready Jul 2014 #24

I've tried really hard to stay sanguine about change. riderinthestorm Jul 2014 #25

I hope you go to Ireland - I studied in Europe years ago, and my only regret closeupready Jul 2014 #34

Tom Joad in Grapes of Wrath: ashling Jul 2014 #27

I spent many years preparing to be an academic Lydia Leftcoast Jul 2014 #29

Thanks for your story. I've thought about it several times now closeupready Jul 2014 #35

In 1989, I was living in Miami and decided to move RebelOne Jul 2014 #30

I had a friend, now deceased, who implored me closeupready Jul 2014 #36

Thanks, I love it here and feel as if I had always lived in Georgia. n/t RebelOne Jul 2014 #42

Funny you should ask hermetic Jul 2014 #31

See what happens? hermetic Jul 2014 #32

It might be a long story, but I would absolutely love to hear closeupready Jul 2014 #37

Desperation magical thyme Jul 2014 #38

I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe you'll discover a way to closeupready Jul 2014 #40

The realization that my life was not over Xipe Totec Jul 2014 #39