When Jehova Witnesses ring my doorbell

[DebJ]

21. and 'them' is like ten men living in NY.

The way they have twisted my sister's head and life is just horrendous.

She has no friends, and hasn't for decades...you are only allowed to associate with other Witnesses. They have no hobbies, no interests, other than gardening and home remodeling, things they pursue as a couple, with no friends. For forty years. Forty years of isolation.

She had some real issues as a child, things she totally distorted about my mother(per her three siblings), and the Witnesses told her
"Just tell yourself you are not upset and that is the answer. Emotions are a tool of the devil, so choose to not feel them." Whatever you do, they said, Don't talk to you mother, no, don't work it out, don't find out the truth...that would be feeding Satan's ability to use emotion to get to you. My sister decided this was effective and had 'fixed' her issues. Meanwhile, she shut her parents and her sisters pretty much out of her life completely. for 40 years. And never, ever spoke, until two years ago in some phone calls, of her perception that our mother had abused her. We heard her details, and other nutsy things she said, and realized she needed a psychologist, badly. We lived in a small home and nothing like what she described happened...my mother had merely given my sister some advice on how to make herself attractive to a man, in the manner that a woman born in 1928 might well do, and my sister had taken offense at this... Mom told her not to eat too much and put on weight because then no man would want her... this was a reflection of my mother's own self-image (my sister looks very much like my Mom) and her firm concept that without a husband, a woman is nothing, useless, so Mom was doing what she felt was in my sister's best interests. Ever after that, my sister considered herself abused, and hated our mother. In discussions of this with our Aunt, the Aunt described my sister as a young child as someone who seemed to have an attachment disorder, a child who never wanted to be hugged, cuddled, kissed or touched. This is all very bizarre, to discover when my sister is now aged 58.


My sister convinced herself, literally convinced herself, that my mother was always insane. She told us this a year ago, and the next thing we know, she had convinced my parents to live with her. Parents whom she only visited maybe 4 times in 40 years, for a day or two each time, and whose phone calls she didn't bother to return for months at a time. My parents were in very early stages of dementia. I was horrified, and very concerned, but couldn't get my other two sisters to accept what I was saying until over the ensuing months, strange things and a trail of lies began to be very evident. My sister wouldn't spend any time with my mother at all, though they were living in the same house. She wouldn't even answer my mother when she was 6 feet from her and Mom asked her a direct question. And many other oddities. Within two weeks of their arrival, my sister asked us to declare our parents totally incompetent and give her control of their medical and financial matters. Our parents were not incompetent in either fashion at that point. Next thing we know, my sister is plying my mother with antidepressants, without her or anyone's knowledge. When we found out, we stepped in to stop it. My mother was very ill two weeks ago, and I went to my sisters (8 hour drive away) to visit for a week. To my horror, I found out that by using four different doctors in the ER, my sister had put my mother on 2 anti-depressants, 1 anti-anxiety med, and 2 other psychoactive drugs....within 5 days, all these new meds being dumped into my 86 year old mother, who by this point had advanced rather severely in her dementia. The drugs INCREASED her anxiety, she was in a constant panic. I can't describe the horror I witnessed, of a woman who was already disoriented by dementia, being chemically put into total panic..... for 8 long hours... happened 3 nights in a row before I saw where the meds were, logged them down, and blew my stack! I insisted we go to Mom's GP and have him review this nightmare, he pulled all the drugs thank God except on short-term use antidepressant. Next step: we find that one other sister had documents naming her as guardian (thank God). The sister with whom my Mom lived keeps pushing now to try to get that guardianship transferred to her, or for my sister to give her some proxy status.... because, I'm telling you, she has a twisted need to stuff Mom with psych drugs to justify her stance of apparently 40 years that Mom was 'always insane'. By now, my sisters and brothers-in-law know what is really going on. Mom went in a nursing home and my other sister is taking guardianship, so at least my twisted sister can't hurt her anymore.

That's the result of the Witness advice, to not work things out with family members...because you know, if you talk to non-Witness family members, they might wake you the hell up.

There are so many other twisted things, it makes me sick. I used to allow Witnesses in my home, glad to discuss the Bible with anyone...though never to agree. But after this nightmare of the past year, and seeing how they totally screwed my sister in so many, many ways, i don't know what I'll do if one knocks on my door ever again. But it won't be pretty.